“What I think is happening is not that men value work less,” author Bruce Linton writes in “Finding Time for Fatherhood: Men’s Concerns as Parents,” “but that fatherhood is becoming equally important. While work was once the only source of meaning for a man, fatherhood and parenting have become as important to his self-esteem as his work.”
A good father must show loyalty, love, respect, patience and passion, says Margaret O’Connell, a Manhattan-based writer.
“He must be man enough to express his nurturing, gentle, caring, creative, intelligent and peace-filled nature freely with his daughters and sons,” she writes.
There’s no denying it: fatherhood today is a tall order.
How to Bring Down a Son
- Provide him with plenty of free spending money.
- Permit him to choose his own companions without restraint or direction.
- Give him a latch-key to allow him to return home at any hour of the night.
- Make no inquiry as to where and with whom he spends his leisure hours.
- Give him to understand that manners make a good substitute for morals.
- Let him expect pay for every act of helpfulness.
- Let him spend his church-time on the street instead of in church.
- Be careful never to let him hear you pray.