Last Updated on January 27, 2023 by Editor

JAN. 29, 2023: There’s a difference between compassion and sympathy

Compassion, or having a little sympathy for the other person, is another virtue and Jesus quality that is getting rare to find.

Like the story of the big snowstorm in a small town when the teacher warned her students saying, “Now be careful. I had a darling brother who went into a snowstorm with his new sled and caught pneumonia and shortly after, died.”

The school room was silent, then a boy raised his hand and asked the teacher, “Where’s his sled?”

The boy wasn’t very compassionate. There is a difference between compassion and sympathy. The first means really feeling for the other persons’ troubles, being “with them” and trying to walk with them in their shoes, so to speak.

But sympathy means understanding the others’ troubles or problems because you have “been there” before — you are similar and know all about it because you’re on the “same page” as they say.

Struggling to be like the good Lord Jesus is our task each day. Unfortunately, some say, “I have no sympathy for so and so,” only because they haven’t had a similar situation, and that may be acceptable. That does not excuse any one of us from offering some degree of compassion for the other person.

To try to be a bit more compassionate is not an optional item or accessory for the Christian person, like remote control mirrors on a new car.

Compassion is a Jesus quality.

JAN. 22, 2023: God’s answers to questions might surprise you

I asked God to take away my pride, and God said NO. He said it was not for him to take away but for me to give up.

I asked God to grant me patience, and God said NO. He said that patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn’t granted, it’s earned.

I asked God to give me happiness, and God said NO. He said he gives blessings; happiness is up to me.

I asked God to spare me pain, and God said NO. He said suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to Him.

I asked God to make my spirit grow, and God said NO. He said I must grow on my own, but he will prune me to make me fruitful.

I asked God if He loves me, and God said YES. He gave His only Son who died for me, and I will be in heaven some day because I believe.

I asked God to help me love others as much as He loves me, and God said, “Ah, finally you have understood.”

And the otherwise …

A couple desperate to conceive a child went to their priest and asked him to pray for them.

“I’m going on a sabbatical to Rome,” he replied, “and while I’m there, I’ll light a candle for you.”

When the priest returned three years later, he went to the couple’s house and found the wife pregnant, busily attending to two sets of twins. Elated, the priest asked her where her husband was so that he could congratulate him.

“He’s gone to Rome, to blow out that candle!” came the harried reply.

JAN. 15, 2023: Value of one parishioner can’t be understated

Ten little parishioners standing in a line; one disliked the pastor, then there were nine.

Nine ambitious parishioners offered to work late; one forgot her promise and then there were eight.

Eight creative parishioners had ideas good as heaven; one lost her enthusiasm, then there were seven.

Seven loyal parishioners got into a fix; they quarreled over projects, then there were six.

Six parishioners remained with spirit and drive; one moved away, then there were five.

Five steadfast parishioners wished there were more; one became indifferent, then there were four.

Four cheerful parishioners who never disagree, ’til one complained of meetings, then there were three.

Three eager parishioners! What did they do? One got discouraged, then there were two.

Two lonely parishioners, our rhyme is nearly done. One joined a sports team, then there was one.

One faithful parishioner was feeling rather blue, met with a neighbor, and then there were two!

Someone has said that we are God’s gift to us, and that what we become is our gift to God.

It is true that God gives you and me the lumber of our lives and offers to help us build from it a chapel of love and praise.

And the otherwise …

A pastor asked a little boy if he said his prayers every night.

“Yes, sir,” the boy replied. “And do you always say them in the morning, too?” the pastor asked.

“No sir,” the boy replied. “I ain’t scared in the daytime.”

JAN. 8, 2023: Guidelines for sane living in the New Year:

Strike a balance between work and play, between seriousness and laughter.
Go to church regularly — and also to the ballgame.
Stick with the truth, even if it makes you look or feel bad. Falsehoods are like wandering ghosts.
Forgive your enemies as part of the price you pay for the privilege of being forgiven.
Realize you sometimes are a pain in the neck.
Walk. Get lots of air and sunshine, and occasionally get some rain or snow in your face, some dirt on your hands.
Talk through your troubles and mistakes with someone you trust — and your dreams, too.
Don’t underestimate the ability of God to straighten out a situation even when you can’t — and give God a little time!
Discriminate among your fears. Learn to tell which ones are useful and which ones are destructive.
Remember that the ultimate death rate is 100 percent. You would be getting short-changed if everyone got to die and you didn’t.
When you can’t sleep, say, “Aha! Here’s a chance for a little privacy and creative thinking. All day I’ve been too busy to pray, and now I can get around to thanking God.”
Fall in love with life, with children, older people, middle-agers, sports cars, the theater, music, books, cities, hills, the sea, the Bible — with everything except money.

JAN. 1, 2023: What to thank God for in the new year

Just this once, O God, I’d like to come to you with no problems, but to simply say “thank you:”

For forgiveness when I fail.
For the sheer joy of sleep when I’m terribly tired.
For the justice of Your laws when men are cruel.
For the growing remedies to good health when I am ill.
For the nurture of new knowledge when I make a mistake.
For the simplicity of orderliness when I face confusion.
For the joy of helping others when I see people in need.
For the assurance that You have made a place for each of us when I feel inadequate among my peers.
For the fun that refreshes when everything gets too serious.
For the renewal moments of silence when I am dizzy being busy in a going world.
For the confidence of friends when loved ones do not understand.
For the healing love of family when my friends hurt me.
For Your presence when I am very lonely.
And above all God, I thank You for the worthwhileness and fullness You have given to this world of yours.

New Year’s cheer

“By the time a man is wise enough to watch his step, he’s too old to go anywhere.”
“I don’t feel old. I don’t feel anything until noon. Then it’s time for my nap.
“We could certainly slow the aging process down if it had to work its way through Congress.”

DEC. 25: 2022: Live up to the challenge of Christmas messages

It’s traditional to share a message at Christmastime and for the New Year.

What message is better than to express thanks to God for so many faithful people here at Mount Carmel / Blessed Sacrament Parish as we together pray and work at bringing others home to weekend Mass and the sacraments, and the steady practice and enjoyment of their Catholic faith.

What message is there at the Christmas crib for you and me?

We are adults, but we enjoy feeling like a kid again experiencing the wonder and the coziness of the Nativity scene. But some messages of Christmas are not so cozy if we look closer at the Nativity. These messages will challenge us in the New Year coming.

“No room in the inn:” Is there more room in my life for Jesus. Are there some people for whom there is no room in my heart, my home, my parish?

“The shepherds kept watch:” Jesus invited the company of the outcasts, the poor, shepherds, hungry children, sinners and the like. In what kind of people do I look to find God?

The uncomfortable straw of the manger and the many visitors coming to gaze upon the newborn child remind us that really practiced faith will involve being “uncomfortable” with the world. Visitors remind us faith never is a private affair.

Although these messages are challenging, the warmth and good faith generated by so many in our parish tell me that all things are possible with God. Thank you for your cards, greetings and gifts this Christmas season. May the gentle peace of God be with you and your loved ones.

DEC. 18, 2022: Life, like Advent, full of waiting, longing, hoping

Even though the season of Advent comes but once a year, in our “churchy” way of doing things I think maybe life is all about Advent.

A woman waits for word from the doctor about results of a biopsy fearful “it” may have come back. A young man watches daily for his e-mail or the mail carrier looking for word from the college where he applied, waiting and wondering.

A young newlywed wife watches and waits in front of the TV looking at the news about the latest big move involving our troops and her new husband — she’s scared.

Waiting, longing, hoping, watching, yearning and expecting are so much a part of ordinary living, as well as key words to appreciate the powerful beauty of Advent.

We wait for Christmas to come, but more significantly, we wait for that Day of the Lord to come — called to the side of Christ and worthy of the reward of that Kingdom.

The shopping days before Christmas would just have us think of Happy Holidays, but really there is a tension between living this life and waiting for God’s Kingdom.

The waters we Christian fish are swimming in are soaked with consumerism — shopping and buying and then exchanging and returning.

The image of Our Lady of Guadalupe, whose feast day comes in Advent on Dec. 12, is a genuine Advent image because a pregnant woman is a kind of “walking” Advent, mixing radiance and a beaming hope with the burden of cramps and fatigue and anxiety.

It’s like our life, mixing struggling each day to live and be worthy of God and the same time hoping, waiting for that Day of the Lord.

And the otherwise …

I once asked a little boy, “And what do you want for Christmas?” His answer was, “Two teddy bears.” My next question, “Why two?” His answer: “So I can share.”

DEC. 11, 2022: Amid hectic season, take time to respect Advent

It’s extremely hard to prepare for Christmas in this day and age as a Christian.

The “season” has been thoroughly captured for commercial purposes. The selling imperative is so strong that one could escape it only by going on an old-fashioned retreat. We’re made to feel guilty if something isn’t purchased every day during December.

That is not a preparation for the feast of Emmanuel, God-with-us. Christmas for us means the Earth-shaking message that God shares life in the flesh with us, knows us in the body, feels as we feel, shares our joys, sorrows and hopes. Shares even the weakness and neediness of a baby. This is, certainly cause for extravagant celebrating and feasting. But without time spent reflecting on where we are and what we’re waiting for, it may be indulgence more than godly celebrating that we do.

It is possible to put up the decorations, do the shopping and everything else associated with Christmas in America while still giving attention to Advent. But it requires sustained attention. A short period of prayer and reflection each day could do. Use of the Advent wreath and a prayer with it could do it. The practice of extra patience with those we live with and work with could do it. Attending one of the special Advent services offered by area churches could do it. Each of us can think of our own best ways.

If we want Christmas itself to be a day of love and true peace, preparation is needed. The Church sets aside the weeks of Advent for that. Take advantage of the time left. Take it seriously for yourself, for your family and friends, for your world. The resulting gift is more valuable, more lasting than any of the symbols of love that can be wrapped and placed beneath a tree.

DEC. 4, 2022: Advent reminds us that time is short

Although Advent at first seems to be several weeks to patiently wait for the joy of Christmas, really on a deeper level and by ancient tradition and teaching of the church, Advent is more than that.

Advent is a season of faith that invites us to ask are we always prepared, worthy and ready of being called to the side of Christ. In other words, there is an urgency to the message, there should be no delay or postponing of our being worthy of the company of the Good Shepherd and the gift of Heaven.

Advent really challenges us to know that time is shorter than we think and today is the day to draw closer to the light of faith and our friendship with Jesus.

There’s an old story that helps make this point.

There was a meeting of the board of directors going on in Hell. Satan was concerned over the fact that business was not increasing. He wanted to reach as many people as possible and draw then into Hell.

One demon jumped up and said: “I’ll go back to Earth and convince the people that there is no heaven.”

“That won’t do,” said Satan. “We’ve tried it before and it doesn’t work.”

“I’ll convince them that there is no Hell,” offered a second demon.

“No, that doesn’t work either,” said Satan.

A wise, old veteran in the back of the room said, “If you let me go back to Earth, I can fill this place. I’ll just convince them that there is no hurry.”

NOV. 27, 2022: This season, remember the blessing who is St. Joseph

In many ways, a man forgotten during Advent is St. Joseph.

On our way toward Christmas, Joseph illustrates in his blessed and humble life several wondrous gifts to us.

One is the treasure of silence, especially in a culture filled with too many sounds and so much noise. St. Joseph recorded no words in Scripture, not one. But he was so close to Jesus, Padre Pio was asked, “What language does God speak?”

Pio replied, “God speaks the language of silence.”

We need some of it in our own personal lives. Silence is the bed that prayer sleeps in.

Also, St. Joseph offers at Christmas the gift of actions that speak louder than words. He did so much to protect and provide for the Holy Family of Nazareth. So often we say we’ll do something but fail to do it.

St. Joseph also illustrates the gift of grace lived under pressure. Although he found himself dealing with some emergency situations — pregnancy unlike any other, no place for the birth of the child, enemies out to destroy Jesus, some of the Savior’s very mysterious ways growing up — lots of pressure.

But Joseph seemed to be convinced of what so many faithful people know — that God never lets us face anything that He hasn’t provided the grace to handle.

May our parish patron, St. Joseph, help us to unwrap and discover more fully those gifts — the treasure of silence that actions speak louder than words, and grace under pressure.

NOV. 20, 2022: Sometimes, coincidences aren’t coincidences

Sometimes, there is no way to explain some things that happen.

Could it be coincidence — or does God surprise us in delightful ways?

As practical Americans and skeptical people, we really want an explanation for everything, which shuts out the magic and grace of some of life’s wonderful experiences. This true episode took place in the wooded parts of the Finger Lakes.

A construction crew was building a new road through a wooded rural area, knocking down many trees as they progressed. A crew boss noticed one tree had a large nest of birds in it, who hadn’t learned to fly yet. The boss marked the tree, not to be cut down yet.

A few weeks later the crew returned and seeing the nest abandoned they cut down the large tree with a crash. Now, with the tree lying on the ground, they saw all the material the nest was made of — twigs, leaves and some scraps of paper from a nearby farm community.

One scrap of paper had on it a fragment from the Gospel: “Do not be anxious. Does the Father in heaven not care for even the birds of the air?”

And the otherwise …

When a woman decided to send the old family Bible to her brother in another state, the postal worker asked her if there was anything breakable in the package.

“Only the Ten Commandments,” she replied.

NOV. 13, 2022: Small habits that will transform your faith and life

The scenery doesn’t change. The view never shifts. You feel the wheels spinning and hear the engine revving, but you just aren’t going anywhere.

Congratulations: you’re stuck in a rut.

It can happen in life, in love, in work and, believe it or not, in faith. We find ourselves going through the motions —making the right gestures, saying the right words — but we end up feeling spiritually paralyzed.

Too often, what begins as a habit ends up being a chore. The life of grace and holiness we were striving to achieve becomes more like drudgery. Go to work. Make dinner. Walk the dog. Go to church. Repeat.

What can a Christian do?

The real question, I think, is: what can a Christian be?

Turning faith into merely something you do misses the beautiful reality that faith —what we believe and how we live it — is the sum and substance of who we are.

So, first of all be thankful. Second, be generous. Be prayerful.

Make gratitude the foundation of your prayer life. Develop a habit of writing down for what you are thankful. As you read your list, give God thanks and praise for your blessings.

Find something you can do to be generous with God. Visit someone who is lonely or sick, or volunteer at your parish. Or think about what you can do without and share more of what you have been given.

Gain a renewed sense of purpose and mission by praying before meals, at the start of any project, or the end of a long day.

NOV. 6, 2022: Getting family back to church requires patience

The following was published in a Catholic newspaper.

Dear Padre,

My son and his wife attend the Christian Unity Church. They like the minister there and the “upbeat” service. My son was raised Catholic and still claims that he is Catholic, even though he doesn’t go to a Catholic church. I feel frustrated by the whole affair!

Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,

Your frustration is certainly shared by many parents and grandparents today. They raised their children Catholic, even sent them to Catholic schools, but the children have grown up and chosen to be more eclectic about the practice of their faith.

A survey on religion showed that nine out of 10 people say they believe in God, and seven out of 10 consider spirituality important in their lives. But this doesn’t mean that they are committed to a single religion or house of worship. About half of the people questioned attend religious services less than once a month, or never. Many of them are interested in exploring different teachings and attending different churches. The loyalty to one religious sect that was evident in our own lives, or in our parents’ and grandparents’ lives, is lacking in today’s younger than-55 crowd.

What can one do about this situation?

The traditional method is to pray for your children and to continue to give a good example through your own loyalty to the Catholic Church and attendance at Sunday Mass. It would even be good to invite your son and his wife to attend with you when they are visiting.

As we age, we often become more religious and traditional. We may become more interested in our family’s histories, photo albums and death notices. The religion of our childhood begins to appear very attractive again. Try to be patient and continue to pray that your children will return to the church of their roots.

OCT. 30, 2022: Heavenly promise — you’ll see departed loved ones again

“I will see you again, and your heart shall rejoice and your joy no man shall take from you.”

There are no more comforting words in scripture than this assurance of Christ. It was just prior to His passion when He predicted to His disciples that though He was to be separated from them by death, they would be reunited once more.

In autumn we think of death and by it our separation from our loved ones. We always are aware that such separation is inevitable. Friend must say to friend, husband to wife, parent to child: “A little while and you shall not see me.”

But there is consolation for the bereaved heart. As Christ said of His own Resurrection, “Again a little while and you shall see me,” we who are left shall die and with death be reunited with our loved ones who have gone before.

Throughout the coming month of November, we are reminded to pray for the poor souls in Purgatory. We call them “poor” because they are beyond their own power to merit. Though they are assured of salvation, they depend upon our prayers and sacrifices to hasten their entrance into their eternal home where their “joy no one shall take from them.”

OCT. 23, 2022: Bright reflections on how to live in the light

By the Rev. Ronald Rolheiser

We’re called to live in the light, but we tend to have an overly romantic idea of what that should mean.

We tend to think that to live in the light means that there should be a kind of special sunshine inside of us, a divine glow in our conscience, a sunny joy inside us that makes us constantly want to praise God, an ambience of sacredness surrounding our attitude.

But that’s unreal.

What does it mean to live in the light?

To live in the light means to live in honesty, pure and simple, to be transparent, to not have part of us hidden as a dark secret.
Spiritual health lies in honesty and transparency, and so we live in the light when we are willing to lay every part of our lives open.
To live in the light is to be able always to tell our loved ones where we are and what we are doing.
To live in the light is not to have to worry if someone traces what websites we have visited.
To live in the light is to not be anxious if someone in the family finds our files unlocked.
To live in the light is to be able to let those we live with listen to what’s inside our cellphones, see what’s inside our emails and know who’s on our speed dial.
To live in the light is to have a confessor and to be able to tell that person what we struggle with, without having to hide anything.
To live in the light is to live in such a way that, for those who know us, our lives are an open book.

OCT. 16, 2022: Every life is worth living

As Catholics, we believe and put our hope in a merciful and loving God. We are conscious of our own brokenness and need for redemption. Our Lord calls us to imitate him more perfectly by witnessing to the inherent dignity of every person.

Whether it lasts for a brief moment or for a hundred years, each of our lives is a good and perfect gift. At every stage and in every circumstance, we are held in existence by God’s love.

Our relationships on Earth are meant to help us and others grow in perfect love. We are meant to depend on one another, serve each other in humility, and walk together in times of suffering.

An elderly man whose health is quickly deteriorating; and unborn baby girl whose diagnosis indicates she may not live very long; a little boy with Down syndrome; a mother facing terminal cancer — each may have great difficulties and need assistance, but each of their lives is a good and perfect gift.

Experiencing suffering or watching another suffer is one of the hardest human experiences. But we are not alone. Christ experienced suffering more deeply than we can comprehend, and our own suffering can be meaningful when we unite it with his.

Jesus is with us every step of the way, giving us the grace we need. God invites us to embrace the lives we have been given, for as long as they are given. Every life is worth living.

OCT. 9, 2022: Small habits that will transform your faith and life

The scenery doesn’t change. The view never shifts. You feel the wheels spinning and hear the engine revving, but you just aren’t going anywhere.

Congratulations: You’re stuck in a rut. It can happen in life, in love, in work and, believe it or not, in faith.

We find ourselves going through the motions — making the right gestures, saying the right words — but we end up feeling spiritually paralyzed. Too often, what begins as a habit ends up being a chore.

The life of grace and holiness we were striving to achieve becomes more like drudgery. Go to work. Make dinner. Walk the dog. Go to church. Repeat.

What can a Christian do?

The real question, I think, is: What can a Christian be?

Turning faith into merely something you do misses the beautiful reality that faith — what we believe and how we live it — is the sum and substance of who we are.

So, first of all, be thankful. Second, be generous. Be prayerful.

Make gratitude the foundation of your prayer life. Develop a habit of writing down what you are thankful for. As you read your list, give God thanks and praise for your blessings.

Find something you can do to be generous with God. Visit someone who is lonely or sick, or volunteer in your parish. Or think about what you can do without and share more of what you have been given. Gain a renewed sense of purpose and mission by praying before meals, at the start of any project, or the end of a long day.

OCT. 2, 2022: Have you heard about ‘No Excuse Sunday?’

This weekend, we offer these thoughts from an unknown author:

To make it possible for everyone to attend church next Sunday, we are going to have a special “No Excuse Sunday.”
Cots will be placed in the foyer for those who say, “Sunday is my only day to sleep in.”
There will be a special section with lounge chairs for those who feel our pews are too hard.
Eye drops will be available for those with tired eyes from watching TV late on Saturday nights.
We will have steel helmets for those who say, “The roof would cave in if I ever came to church.”
Blankets will be furnished for those who think the church is too cold and fans for those who say it is too hot.
Scorecards will be available for those who wish to list the hypocrites present.
Relatives and friends will be in attendance for those who can’t go to church and cook dinner, too.
We will distribute “Stamp Out Stewardship” buttons for those who feel that the church always is asking for money.
One section will be devoted to trees and grass for those who like to see God in nature.
Doctors and nurses will be in attendance for those who plan to be sick on Sunday.
The sanctuary will be decorated with Christmas poinsettias and Easter lilies for those who never have seen the church without them.
We will provide hearing aids for those who can’t hear the preacher and cotton for those who say he is too loud.

SEPT. 25, 2022: Finding real love affirms groom’s faith

A groom included these words in his hopes and expectations read during the homily at his nuptial Mass:

“I must admit I have been looking forward to this day for a long time now. Growing up as I did with wonderful, loving parents, I realized early on that I was going to need someone with me to make my life special. In looking at my parents, I foresaw how a happy, healthy marriage could make the world a better place for the two people involved, and how happiness and love could extend from a couple out to their family, friends and surrounding community.

“I knew that I wanted this type of life and relationship; I just wasn’t sure how to go about building it. It took me a while to figure out that the catalyst to what I wanted was going to be finding the right type of girl. What is astonishing to me is that I finally found you.

“I thought that finding a girl who could put up with my antics and issues was going to be a lifelong, unfulfilled quest. Moreover, finding a girl who was as beautiful as you with such a kind and gentle heart seemed impossible. To be honest, I often questioned my faith in God because I did not think he would ever put someone like you in my path.

“The fact that he did reaffirms my faith in Him, and it makes me extremely happy that you share this faith with me. I look forward to building a life together in the way that God meant us to.”

SEPT. 18, 2022: Follow Mother Teresa’s ‘A Simple Path’

The following is taken from “A Simple Path,” meditations by Mother Teresa:

Take time to think.
Take time to pray.
Take time to laugh.
It is the source of power.

It is the greatest power on Earth. It is the music of the soul.

Take time to play
Take time to love and be loved.
Take time to give.

It is the secret of perpetual youth. It is God’s given privilege. It is too short a day to be selfish.

Take time to read.
Take time to be friendly.
Take time to work.

It is the fountain of wisdom. It is the road to happiness. It is the price of success.

Take time to do charity — it is the key to heaven.

SEPT. 11, 2022: Prayer of the Faithful is fruit of the vine

In this time of the year, we look forward to the making of wine, especially as the next few weeks bring us to golden autumn in October.

In their sun-ripened bunches, the grapes differ from each other in their colors and scents and taste. A Concord grape isn’t a Muscadine. But they are all “fruit of the vine, and the wine is the work of human hands.”

Sound familiar?

The prayer over the gifts at the altar table reminds us that even the Holy Mass and the prayers we offer at liturgy are “fruit of the vine, and work of human hands and hearts” — especially the part of the Mass we call the Prayer of the Faithful, those petitions and prayers seeking the Lord’s help. These are really from among the people, from the Earth, these prayers are fruit of the vine.

The Prayer of the Faithful should include current needs that speak of things on our minds and in our hearts right now. The fruit of our faith is our genuine concern for all those Christ loves and cherishes, so our petition prayers should reflect that in one way or another.

The Prayer of the Faithful at weekend Mass is something that pertains to all of us, our church, our community and the world.

You can join in the Prayer of the Faithful at Mass, by reading them in our bulletin weekly on Page 5 and online on the parish website at www.mountcarmelblessedsacrament.com.

SEPT. 4, 2022: ‘Substitute sacraments’ are enticing us

We know that a sacrament is any visible sign of God’s invisible presence made manifest in the “sign” of the sacrament.

A sign is something through which we celebrate faith and we find the communication of God’s saving grace.

For us, there are seven official sacraments, but the things and situations that bear God’s presence and are instruments of divine action can be myriad and countless — a sunset in summer, a newborn baby, and so on.

Isn’t it amazing, those who are absent from the church and sacraments find the need for “substitute” sacraments. Gaze everyone, you see them — balloons released to unnamed gods against a blue sky, the graffiti that the faithless use to rename and “baptize” parts of their culture and setting, psychic readings and cross-over entertainers making large profits for talking with the dead, missing-man flight formations, and elaborate crop circles and designs in large fields.

For some, the new temples for “substitute sacraments” take the form of professional wrestling arenas, casinos or the fields for sports.

In the Catholic way of loving life, bread and wine, blessed oil, vows consecrated, holy fire and the fragrance of incense become worthy instruments of Gods awesome presence.

Top 10 excuses for missing church

Sorry, I missed church but …

I can find God in nature.
I prefer watching televangelists. (There’s just something about a remote control that makes me feel like I’m in control of my spiritual life.)
It would make me miss my soccer practice.
There are too many hypocrites in church, and besides, it interfered with golf.
There is too much hugging and real warmth.
There isn’t enough hugging and real warmth.
I went once, but I didn’t recognize the place without the lilies and poinsettias.
I’m an atheist — I swear to God!
Even Jesus wouldn’t have gone if he had to sit through the sermon.
The dog ate my offering.

AUG. 28, 2022: Remember those who have inspired you

On only two days a year, a certain successful doctor wears an old and worn, out-of-style patched coat in his medical clinic.

He does this because one blustery, cold winter night when he was just beginning his career, he made a call on a little boy in a dirty, freezing, very poor tenement apartment house. The boy’s mother and father hovered over his bed, and despite the good doctor’s best efforts, the boy died there that night.

Because the doctor was shivering from the cold, the dead boy’s father took off his own coat and put it over the doctor’s shoulders saying, “You may keep this. Thank you for trying to save him.”

So, to this day, the doctor wears that old coat on the anniversary of his graduation from medical school and on the anniversary of the boy’s death.

When asked why, the doctor said, “It reminds him of what it’s all about, what the reasons were for his entering medicine and becoming a doctor.”

Let’s never forget our first dreams and aspirations and those who have helped and inspired us along life’s way.

And the otherwise …

“I hope you didn’t take it personally, father,” an embarrassed woman said after Mass, “when my husband walked out during your sermon.”

“I did find it rather disconcerting,” the pastor replied.

“It’s not a reflection on you, sir,” insisted the churchgoer. “Ralph has been walking in his sleep ever since he was a child.”

AUG. 21, 2022: Faithful families build extraordinary lives

A book written in the 1990s ago tells the stories of 34 priests working in the U.S., Canada and New Zealand.

In “Extraordinary Lives,” they speak of very similar influences that led them to priesthood, especially the witness of families practicing faith weekly and the cheerful example of good priests growing up.

These 34 priests have similar concerns about priesthood today about the ability of priests to inspire, lead and motivate people of all kinds in parishes, and about the need for good and helpful preaching, teaching and presiding in worship.

They all express satisfaction with their vocation, though they tell of struggles worked through. Most of these priests acknowledge an understanding of priests who have left the priesthood to marry, and they suggest with some reservations an openness to the notion of a married priesthood, for those who would choose.

Maybe their lives are extraordinary because they are so ordinary in terms of enjoying people, hobbies and activities such as fishing, gardening and sports. These men delight in and draw strength from friendships and time spent at kitchen tables over a cup of coffee with parishioners and others.

What is so clear is the influence of good parents, or a parent who attended Mass with regular devotion during the formative years in their children’s lives. It is unfortunate that so many young married couples, their marriage consecrated in the Church, fail to practice their faith each weekend regularly. It only makes the hope of vocations to the priesthood even less possible.

And the otherwise …

The pastor had been disturbed by a person who read too fast during responsive readings at Mass.

“We shall now read the 23rd psalm in unison,” he said.

He paused.

“Will the lady who is always “by still waters” while the rest of us are “in green pastures,” please wait a minute until we catch up?”

AUG. 14, 2022: Amid all life’s storms, always trust in God

As summertime continues with earnest with hot weather and refreshing breezes, boating with motor or sail is seen on New York state waterways.

Summer storms on lakes come up and are to be considered with care and caution. It reminds us of something related to a famous artist and his painting.

Rembrandt composed a painting that portrays the Biblical story of the storm on the Sea of Galilee. Perhaps of you have seen the little ship occupied by Jesus and the Apostles being hit by a huge wave. You can feel the shudder running through the boat. The storm is all around. The rigging is loose and blowing in the wind. And the disciples are panic-stricken.

It is marvelous to realize that amid all this storm, panic, fear and danger, the disciples had to awaken Jesus to tell Him about it. It wasn’t because He didn’t care or because He was indifferent, it was because He had such trust in God. He had sunk Himself down so deep into the being of God for that period of refreshment that He was sleeping right through the storm.

You can look at the painting and say to yourself, “I’ve got to learn that from Him — to have complete trust in God.”

And the otherwise …

So far today, God, I’ve done all right. I haven’t gossiped, haven’t lost my temper, haven’t been selfish, grumpy, nasty, or overindulgent. I’m really glad about that. But in a few minutes, God, I’m going to get out of bed, and from then on I’m probably going to need a lot more help.

AUG. 7, 2022: Many thanks for the return of the festival

It took a while, but we have once again completed a successful parish festival.

It was wonderful to gather again after two years of pandemic cancellations.

Thanks to the many hard workers and parishioners, friends and neighbors who attended over the three-day event.

The volunteers who prepared the food and pizza fritta, set up the café and those who worked on the church grounds setting up plumbing, electricity, cleanup and organizing the workers; those who baked cookies and cakes; those who donated nonperishable items and paper products are to be congratulated, for without them our festival would not get off the ground. How well we can work together for common cause.

The liturgical celebration honoring Our Lady of Mount Carmel was just beautiful. We are all grateful to the priests who were with us during the Nine-Week Novena leading up to the festival.

May God continue to shower His blessings on our parish family.

JULY 31, 2022: Live this summer ‘grace-fully’

Thank you, Lord, for this season of sun and slow motion, of games and porch sitting, of picnics and light green fireflies on heavy purple evenings, and praise for slight breezes. It’s good, God, as the first long days of your creation.

Let this season be for me a time of gathering the pieces into which my business has broken me. O God, enable me now to grow wise through reflection, peaceful through the song of the cricket, recreated through the laughter of play.

Most of all Lord, let me live easily and grace-fully for a spell, so that I may see other’ souls deeply, share in a silence unhurried, listen to the sounds of sunlight and shadows, explore barefoot the land of forgotten dreams and shy hopes, and find the right words to tell another who I am.

And the otherwise …

Disciples come in three varieties of boats when it comes to following the Lord.

First, the tugboats follow Jesus, not only in sunny weather but also when stormy. They follow even when the wind and waves oppose them. They love the Lord always, day in and day out.

Second are the disciples who come in sail boats. They follow on sunny days. They go in His direction when the wind and the waves serve them. If stormy weather comes, they only go in the direction they are blown.

Finally, there are the barge disciples. They are not willing followers of Jesus. They go in His direction only because others tug at them or even have to pull them there. They need the push, like any barge, to get them going.

Does this make us think?

JULY 24, 2022: These free gifts will make you richer

With home shopping networks, internet purchases, so many wholesale stores and better-informed consumers, we have become very conscious about the cost of what we want.

Americans have become better at finding good deals and keeping costs down — especially now when inflation is so high.

Let’s be reminded, however, of some important and meaningful “items” in life that do not cost a cent.

The gift of listening: No interrupting, no plotting your response, just listening to the other person.
The gift of laughter: Clip and share cartoons, funny stories, respond with joy even though you’ve heard it all before.
The gift of a written note: A brief, handwritten note can be saved and remembered for years to come. It can move someone to change their life.
The gift of solitude: There are times when someone needs and appreciates simply being left alone. Be sensitive to those times.
The gift of compliment: Keep it simple and sincere. “You did a super job” can make someone’s day.
The gift of affection: Be generous with the hug or pat on the back. These small gestures speak volumes about the way you appreciate the other person.

And the otherwise …

Bobby and his grandmother were looking at vacation pictures.

“It looks just like an artist painted this scenery,” grandma said. “Did you know God painted it all for you, Bobby?

“Yes,” Bobby said. “God did it with His left hand.”

This confused his grandmother a bit.

“What makes you say God did this with His left hand?”

“Well,” said Bobby. “We learned at church last week that Jesus sits on God’s right hand.”

JULY 17, 2022: Advice from the pople on how to find happiness

Pope Francis spoke with Argentinian weekly “Viva” awhile back, and in the interview, he offered several tips for finding one of life’s most elusive and desired treasures: happiness.

Here are a few of the tips for finding happiness that involve personal and community development. His tips might not reflect a simple recipe for personal growth, but they offer insight into some of the pope’s own values.

Let everyone be themselves: “The Romans have a saying, which can be taken as a point of reference,” Pope Francis said. “They say, ‘Campa e lascia campa (live and let live)’. That’s the first step to peace and happiness.”
Give yourself tirelessly to others: “If one gets tired, one runs the risk of being egotistic, and stagnant water is the first to be corrupted.”
Walk softly: “In ‘Don Segundo Sombra,’ there is a very beautiful thing about a man who looks back on his life. He says that in youth he was a rocky stream that carried everything ahead. As an adult, he was a running river, and that in old age, he felt movement, but it was ‘remansado’ (dammed; slowed). I would use this image of the poet and novelist Ricardo Guiraldes, the last adjective ‘remansado.’ The ability to move with kindness and humility, calmness of life.”
Be available to your kids and family: “Consumerism has led to the anxiety of losing,” the Pope said, which has pushed people to spend less time at home and more time pursuing wealth. But Pope Francis said people should invest more time in healthy leisure. “It is hard,” he said. “The parents go to work and come back when the children are asleep — but it must be done.”
Spend Sundays (or a day of rest) with family: This connects back to the fourth point — make the intention to set time aside for loved ones, despite the pressures of work.

JULY 10, 2022: Holy Spirit has been with us since baptism

I know a deacon who liked to conduct the interviews of parents whose children were about to be baptized.

During the interviews, he asked the parents to describe what would happen to the child through Baptism. He would receive various answers.

Some parents spoke about cleansing from original sin. Others spoke about their child being welcomed into the Church. These were all correct answers, but deacon was really hoping to have one of the parents say that their child would receive the Holy Spirit.

The gospel passage for the Baptism of the Lord speaks of heaven opening and the Holy Spirit descending upon Jesus like a dove. We often associate the coming of the Holy Spirit with Pentecost and the Sacrament of Confirmation, but the Holy Spirit first descended upon us on the day of our Baptism.

The Spirit of God came upon Jesus to empower Him to begin His public ministry. The Holy Spirit was given to us on the day of our Baptism, so that we could go forth to be Christian witnesses in the world. It is correct to say that our Baptism cleansed us of original sin and made us members of the Church.

We are called to go forth from our parishes and bring the Good News of Jesus into the world. The Spirit will empower us because the spirit has descended upon us.

And the otherwise …

“I hope you didn’t take it personally, father, when my husband walked out during your sermon,” an embarrassed woman said after Mass.”

“I did find it rather disconcerting,” the pastor replied.

“It isn’t a reflection on you, sir,” insisted the churchgoer, “Ralph has been walking in his sleep ever since he was a child.”

JULY 3, 2022: You’re richer than you think you are

The following was written by the Rev. Bill Bausch:

The two children huddled in the doorway, wearing ragged old coats and thin, worn sandals.

“Any old papers, lady?” they asked.

I was busy, but then I looked down at their cold feet, their sandals covered in sleet. I invited them in and made them some cocoa and toast and jam.

There was no conversation. They just sat by the fire, eating and drinking, their big eyes taking everything in.

“Lady, are you rich?” the boy asked in a dull flat voice.

“Rich? Mercy, no!”

I looked at my shabby slipcovers. The girl put her cup back on her saucer carefully.

“Your cups match your saucers,” she said.

Her voice was old, with a hunger that was not of the stomach. They gathered up their papers and left. They didn’t say thank you. They didn’t need to.

I looked around. Plain blue pottery cups and saucers. But they matched. Potatoes and brown gravy on the stove, a roof over our heads, my man with a good steady job: these things matched, too.

Their muddy sandal prints were still on my hearth. I have left them there, in case I ever forget how very rich I am.

Happy Fourth of July

Celebrate your independence, be thankful to those who keep us free and praise God for our bountiful nation.

JUNE 26, 2022: There’s no perfect family; deal with differences

The following comes from a speech by Pope Francis at a World Communications Day event:

“More than anywhere else, the family is where we daily experience our own limits and those of others, the problems great and small entailed in living peacefully with others.

“A perfect family does not exist. We should not be fearful of imperfections, weakness or even conflict, but rather learn how to deal with them constructively. The family, where we keep loving one another despite our limits and sins, thus becomes a school of forgiveness.

“Forgiveness is itself a process of communication. When contrition is expressed and accepted, it becomes possible to restore and rebuild the communication which broke down. A child who has learned in the family to listen to others, to speak respectfully, and to express his or her view without negating that of others, will be a force for dialogue and reconciliation in society.”

And the otherwise …

A Sunday School teacher decided to have her young class memorize one of the most quoted passages in the Bible — Psalm 23. She gave the youngsters a month to learn the chapter.

Little Rick was excited about the task, but he just couldn’t remember the psalm. After much practice, he could barely get past the first line.

On the day that the kids were scheduled to recite Psalm 23 in front of the congregation, Ricky was so nervous. When it was his turn, he stepped up to the microphone and said proudly, “The Lord is my Shepherd, and that’s all I need to know.”

JUNE 19, 2022: Teach a child a prayer this summer

Summertime holds many chances and moments for kids to enjoy many things — a backyard pool, camping or fishing trip, some time at a playground setting.

There exists some free time for a parent, grandparent, maybe a godparent of the child, to pass on a prayer or two from our Catholic treasure of prayers. It’s unfortunate how many kids are not able to say aloud even one prayer by heart.

Whenever I fly and the plane climbs to thousands of feet above, I’m glad I know the Act of Contrition! A prayer taught to a youngster need not be long: “Strength in prayer is better than length in prayer!”

This summer, take time to teach a prayer and convey our belief that life’s best outlook is a prayerful outlook.

Here’s one that’s handy for many situations in a troubled world:

“Holy Michael the Archangel, defend us in the day of battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do thou, O Prince of the heavenly host, by the power of God, drive into hell Satan and all evil spirits who prowl through the world, seeing the ruin of souls. Amen.”

JUNE 12, 2022: Being at weekend worship a bright light for the soul

Sometimes you will see a very old house built with window spaces bricked up in the wall. This is a relic of old days when there was a tax on windows — people could not afford to have much lighting.

When building the house, they would make the space in the hope that later on they would then be able to afford to replace the brickwork with glass, and achieve better light, more light streaming into their living space. This especially was common in Puritan America in New England.

A thought to share with loved ones who do not receive the light and help that comes from being present at weekend worship — holy Mass — would be to say that for them, they are bricking up their window spaces of the soul, just as surely as those others in olden times prevented the light from getting through.

And the otherwise …

One Sunday morning, a father gave his son a couple of quarters and a dollar.

“Put the dollar in the offering,” the father said, “then you have the 50 cents for ice cream.”

When the boy came home, he still had his dollar.

“Why didn’t you put the dollar in the offering?” his father asked.

“Well, it was like this,” the boy explained. “The priest said that God loves a cheerful giver. I could give the 50 cents a whole lot more cheerfully than I could give the dollar.”

JUNE 5, 2022: Parents to graduates: I loved you enought to …

With graduation season in full swing and many cherished young people taking another important and significant step on the road of life, good parents can feel some satisfaction in watching the progress of their children.

No diploma or certification is handed over to these good parents, whether they be a couple or single parent. Their reward so often is to treasure the goodness, talent and success of their sons or daughters in their heart.

The wisdom and challenge involved in being a good parent is expressed well in the following:

Some day when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them: I loved you enough to ask you about where you were going, with whom and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to insist that you buy a bike with your own money that we could have afforded to give to you.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your handpicked friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that would have taken me 15 minutes to do myself.
I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, disgust and tears in my eyes. I loved you enough to admit I was wrong and ask for your forgiveness.
I loved you enough to let you stumble, fall and hurt.
I loved you enough to let you assume responsibility for your actions at 6, 10 and 16.
But most of all, I loved you enough to say NO when you hated me for it. That was the hardest part of all.

MAY 29, 2022: Think of your problems as opportunities

I remember a friend of mine who always was able to see in every problem not an occasion for trouble but a “golden opportunity.”

Look about your life right now and ask yourself: “What opportunities am I overlooking or missing?”

God raised Christ with newness of life that says to us that God is not content to simply shrug his heavenly shoulders and say to us, “Well, what could I have expected of such people.” Rather, he chose a unique, new beginning that unleashed all manner of power and creative actions into this world.

Once more not a defeat but an occasion for growth! This is the recurring theme of the New Testament. Just at the point when we think all is lost and nothing is going to improve, God surprises us with a new opportunity.

The key, of course, is our response. Shall we be like those who are ready and willing to join the large ranks of scoffers and the “I-told-you-so” crowds? Or shall we say, “I see here a chance to grow with God”?

The tug of “what-might-have-been-if-only” idea is strong but must be overcome by a good dosage of “what new opportunities do I see in today’s world.”

I am certain that God is working within the events of today and that God always is gracious and giving to us as we respond faithfully. Like the proverbial bus, don’t worry if you missed the last one, there will always be another coming along.

See the excitement that God has built into your life and say a hearty “yes” to the opportunities for joy, life and goodness that God sets before you.

MAY 22, 2022: Lift up someone or something during this Easter season

I’ve read many things over the years about the famous author Franz Kafka, but I never have read that much by him. His stories are filled with such gloom and distress they didn’t appeal to me.

But there must have been something very special about that man who could do what he did during the final months of his life when he was dying of tuberculosis.

It seems that Kafka met a child in the street, crying because she had lost her doll. He told her that even though the doll was gone, he had met the doll and the doll promised to write the little girl once a week.

In the following weeks, the final days of the great author’s life, he wrote letters to the girl in which the doll told of travels and everyday life. This brought sweet magic into that child’s life. (Not to mention the value of those letters years later!)

If the Easter season of our faith is all about lifting up life and the Lord, wouldn’t it be wondrous to think of something like Franz Kafka did to lift someone or something to the glory of God. Think about it. Use your imagination.

And the otherwise …

A new priest gives his first homily at Mass. Later, the old pastor asks a good parishioner how it went.

“It was bad — no story, no substance.”

Just then the young priest walks in. The pastor confronts him and says, “I hear your homily wasn’t good!”

The new guy says, “I got too busy the last few days, so I just read one of your old ones.”

MAY 15, 2022: Let God handle all your fears and worries

Babe Ruth is one of the most famous names in American sports.

A memorable time in Ruth’s personal life was a cold December night in 1946. He explained why in an article in “Guideposts” magazine. He wrote:

“(Even though) I drifted away from the church, I did have my own altar — a big window in my New York apartment overlooking the city lights. Often, I would kneel before that window and say my prayers. I would feel quite humble then. I’d ask God to help me … and pray that I’d measure up to what he expected of me.”

On this cold December night, however, Ruth was in a New York hospital, seriously ill. His closest friend, Paul Carey, was at his side. After a while Carey turned to him and said, “Babe, they’re going to operate in the morning. Don’t you think you should see a priest?”

Ruth saw the concern in Paul’s eyes, and for the first time in his life he realized that death could strike him out. So, he said to Carey, “Yes, Paul, I’d appreciate you calling a priest.”

That night Babe Ruth spent a long time talking to Jesus with the priest’s help. When he finished, he made a full and humble confession.

After the priest left, the Babe said, “As I lay in bed that evening, I thought to myself what a comfortable feeling to be free from fear and worries. I could simply turn them over to God.”

MAY 8, 2022: Mary is a major asset for Catholics

This weekend, when we honor our Blessed Mother with the traditional May crowning, it’s appropriate to reflect on the words of the late Rev. Andrew Greeley in his book “A Piece of My Mind.” Here’s what he had to say about the Blessed Virgin Mary:

“A couple of years ago, I went with a crowd of friends to see John R. Power’s play ‘Patent Leather Shoes,’ based on his novel about Catholicism of the 1950s. In one scene, the second graders of St. Christina’s School in Chicago are doing the annual May crowning. They begin to sing the traditional May crowing hymn, ‘Bring Flowers of the Rarest.’

“At the chorus, the whole audience joined in — ‘O Mary we crown thee with blossoms today, Queen of the Angels, Queen of the May.’

“Some Jewish people sitting near me were humming (ethnic group loyalty in favor of a Jewish mother?) On the way out I cornered the gifted young playwright.

“‘Do they do it every night, John?’”

“‘Since the first night,’ he replied. “‘If they ever stop doing it, we’ll be worried.’”

“The experience was one more confirmation of something I’ve suspected for a long time: Mary, the mother of Jesus, is one of the greatest assets Catholic Christianity has. Henry Adams was right when he said that, as the most important symbol in fifteen hundred years of Christianity, Mary held together Western culture.

“I cannot escape the melancholy conclusion, however, that as in so many other matters, Catholic leaders and thinkers are too dumb to know what a resource they have in the image of a Jewish mother whom humans have honored for more than fifteen hundred years.”

MAY 1, 2022: Don’t duck and hide from your baptismal calling

Sometimes when people in church are sprinkled with the holy water when the priest walks down the aisle, reactions can be various.

Some look forward and arch toward the blessed water; others look puzzled — some react by trying to duck and avoid it.

Baptism, and each time we are blessed with baptismal water, call us to follow the Lord’s ways in holiness of living and some degree of discipleship. Some embrace this, some aren’t too sure and still others seem to duck and hide.

Baptism is the sacrament of belonging. We begin to be named as Christian, belonging to Christ, and of course belonging to each other in the household and community of the Catholic Church.

In so many ways, belief does not lead to belonging, rather the other way around. Many will say that when they avoid being there, with the worshipping community, then even the commitment the believing can begin to erode and even be erased as time goes by.

The importance of baptism in the life of the individual and the community of the faithful cannot be overlooked. It is about a second birth, taking the plunge with Jesus, a cleansing or redirection away from the original sin and natural selfishness we’re all born with.

But just as important is understanding and cherishing baptism as the way that we come to belong to the Good Lord and to one another in the adventure of our faith. We are each unique and singularly graced, and none of us is exempt from the demands of baptism, even we might try to duck.

And the otherwise …

A police officer went up to a street musician and asked, “Excuse me, sir, do you have a license to play that violin in the street?”

The violinist answered, “Well, actually, no.

“In that case, I’m going to have to ask you to accompany me,” the officer said.

“Of course, officer,” the musician responded, “what would you like to sing?”

APRIL 24, 2022: Look for signs that point in the right direction

A young single mother of three children commented on her jogging for exercise on a beautiful spring Sunday morning.

The young mom spoke movingly of how, while she jogged in the neighborhood and her teenage kids sat home watching television, she witnessed many cars parking and families heading into Mass.

She stopped dead in her tracks (and sneakers) and thought about things. The very cars pulling into the church were a sign to her of what should be important for her and the children she was spiritually responsible for, as their Catholic mother.

Within a few weeks she had prompted the family to go to Mass — if not every Sunday, at least a few times a month. She now goes jogging early each Sunday evening.

What other signs are powerful to see on Church property?

Here are some:

“Our Sundays are better than Baskin-Robbins.”
“Searching for that new look? Have your faith lifted here.”
“How will you spend your eternity — smoking or non-smoking?
“This is a ch_ch. What’s missing? UR

Chicken soup for the grandparents’ soul

The closest friends I have made all through life have been people who also grew up close to a loved and loving grandmother or grandfather. (Margaret Mead)

APRIL 17, 2022: Spread the good news of the Risen Christ

Have you ever told something exciting to a young child and watched his or her reaction to it? They can’t wait to tell somebody else, even a stranger happening to walk by.

The Eastertime Gospels send us a message to be like little children and share the joy of the Lord’s risen life with others, to spread the WORD about faith and enjoying life within the sacramental church and God’s people.

It’s not that our faith is found wanting or lacking for anything, it’s just that so often the NEWS has not yet leaked out. Too many, even in the Easter season, still walk among the dead, like the Mary Magdalene, or wait and crouch in fear behind closed doors, like the disciples.

Remember, if the basis of Christianity were anything else than a God who came from a tomb, we’d have nothing to shout about.

Peace be with you.

And the otherwise …

A mother was preparing pancakes for her sons. The boys began to argue over who would get the first pancake. Their mother saw the opportunity for a moral lesson.

“If Jesus were sitting here, He would say, ‘Let my brother have the first pancake, I can wait.’”

One of them turned to the other and said, “You be Jesus!”

APRIL 10, 2022: Make the most of the time you have

Many of us only experience the elation of a triumphal entry twice in our lifetimes.

The first might be your graduation from school, wearing cap and gown, marching solemnly to the strains of Elgar’s “Pomp and Circumstance.”

The second, particularly for many women, is the triumphal entry at their wedding, dressed in gorgeousness and accompanied by the pulse-quickening cadences of Mozart, Handel or Pachelbel.

Jesus only experienced one triumphal entry, coming into the city as a king, astride an ass, passing over a bed of palm branches amid the cries of “Hosanna.” But like all earthy accolades, his triumphal entry was short-lived, as was Jesus himself. He only had a few days left to live.

No one of us knows how many days or seasons we will see, but it will be all too short, as with the Lord Himself. Here’s how to make the most of that precious gift of time.

We must be optimistic when others want to give up.

We must be patient when others are out of control.

We must heal when others hurt.

We must smile when others only frown.

We must possess integrity when others compromise theirs.

We must be the prism through which others see something of God, even when most seem to just stand in his way.

Let this be a message mission that comes from Palm Sunday.

APRIL 3, 2022: Count your blessings, not your crosses

A man who hated his daily cross cried to God, “Why is my cross so heavy, why ignore my prayers?”

God said, “Come to the place where crosses are made and look for another.”

The man entered the very dark and cluttered room, some crosses looked too large or heavy, others like toys — some unbearable to even think about.

Finally, the man picked up one cross; he thought it was just right for him to carry, it was fit for him — perfect for his soul, his body, his mind.

God asked, “Are you sure of it? Never ask me again to find another one for you.”

The man walked out into the light and realized it was the very same cross he had laid at the door when he wentered.

And the otherwise …

Father Smith decided to walk. He bundled up, pulling his overcoat up around his neck. As he rounded the corner, a figure stepped out from a building, gun in hand.

“Give me your money. And hurry up!”

Father opened his overcoat to reach for his billfold in an inside pocket. With that the robber exclaimed as he caught sight of the Roman collar, “Oh, excuse me, Father. I didn’t know you were a Catholic priest.”

Relieved and grateful, the priest replied, “Here, have a cigar.”

Waving his hand, the robber blurted: “No thanks, Father. I gave up smoking during Lent.”

MARCH 27, 2022: Look deep within yourself during Lent

A good Lent begins within yourself first.

A troubled mother one day came to Gandhi along with her daughter and explained to him that her daughter was in the habit of eating far more sweet food than was good for her.

Please, she asked, would Gandhi speak to the girl and persuade her to give up this harmful habit?

Gandhi sat for a while in silence and then said, “Bring your daughter back in three weeks’ time and I will speak to her.”

The mother went away as she was told and then came back after three weeks. This time, Gandhi quietly took the daughter aside and in a few simple words pointed out to her the harmful effects of indulging in sweet food. He urged her to abandon the habit.

Thanking Gandhi for giving her daughter such good advice, the mother then asked him in a puzzled voice, “Why did you not just say these words to my daughter three weeks ago”?

“Three weeks ago,” Gandhi replied, “I myself was still addicted to eating sweet foods.”

And the otherwise …

An elderly lady was known for her faith and for her boldness and talking about it.

She would stand on her front porch and shout, “Praise the Lord!”

Next door to her lived an atheist who would get so angry at her proclamations he would shout, “There ain’t no Lord!”

Hard times set in on the elderly lady and she prayed for God to send her some assistance. She stood on her porch and shouted, “Praise the Lord! God, I need food. I am having a hard time. Please, Lord, send me some groceries!”

The next morning, the lady went out on her porch and saw a large bag of groceries and shouted, “Praise the Lord!”

The neighbor jumped from behind a bush and said, “Ah ha! I told you there was no Lord. I bought those groceries. God didn’t.”

The lady started jumping up and down and clapping her hands and saying, “Praise the Lord! He not only sent me groceries, but He made the devil pay for them!”

MARCH 20, 2022: Telling the truth about ourselves can be painful

Lent is a time of hunger — hunger for truth-telling and a genuine repentance that flows from such truth-telling.

It’s also hunger for forgiveness from One who knows the truth about us but, who nevertheless, comes to us with the offer of amazing grace.

In earlier generations of the church, fasting often was practiced as a sign of these Lenten hungers. To feel the growl in one’s stomach was a way to acknowledge the emptiness in one’s heart. To grow weaker during the day was a reminder of the weakness of one’s flesh and a sign, like the ashes of Ash Wednesday, of one’s mortality.

Lenten fasting thus became a physical embodiment of Lenten hungers.

But, of course, very few of us now fast during Lent. All we have to do is to look around us in most U.S. churches to know how unfashionable fasting has become. Truth-telling is painful, embarrassing and dangerous.

Perhaps there is a relationship between our expanding girths in a culture of consumption and our reluctance to tell the truth about ourselves. If so, Lent is good news for it helps us look in the mirror and see ourselves as we really are.

The gospel invites us to discover that telling the truth about ourselves is a path toward a new freedom and that our Lenten hungers have been awakened by the anticipation of Easter and by the One who is the Bread of Life.

MARCH 13, 2022: Lent strengthens our relationship with Christ

Lent began almost two millennia ago as a preparation for Easter.

Christians believed that they shared in Christ’s Resurrection through baptism, and so they chose the Vigil of Easter to baptize their new converts.

They prepared the neophytes over many months, but the preparation became intense in the weeks before Easter. Thus, Lent became a community retreat. Converts prepared for baptism; baptized Christians recalled their own baptismal experience. Through baptism, we share Christ’s divine life.

It may help to understand this if we recall that human life essentially is relational. We are who we are because of our relationship to our grandparents and parents, our siblings, children and grandchildren.

We know that God’s life, too, essentially is relational — the intimate relationship of Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

Baptism introduces us into the divine community by giving us a new, incredibly intimate relationship to the Son of God.

How close?

Listen to the words of Christ: “Whatever you do to the least of my brothers and sisters, you do to me.”

MARCH 6, 2022: It takes extra effort to make Lent rewarding

A shopkeeper, seeing a boy hanging around near an outside and tempting display of fresh fruit, said, “What are you trying to do kid, steal my apples?”

“No, sir” the boy said., “Really, I’m trying not to!”

Doing the right thing always involves some effort and determination. What right thing will you be doing to make Lent this year truly rewarding, worthwhile and a blessing for you?

To settle for being marked with blessed ashes, fish sandwiches on Fridays and regular Mass on the weekends of Lent is the bare minimum. Are you determined to let Lent this time around become an important time for your own spiritually healthy life?

What effort will you make?

To pray alone and with others, especially to celebrate the Mass, to give something of yourself for the sake of others, the church or the world, to foster a mellow and compassionate heart and to learn something new and gain deeper insights into the gift of faith, these should all be present, at least a bit, for a healthy and renewed life in God’s Spirit.

This is what Lent should be about. This is what will make Easter a joyous time!

Lenten regulations

Abstinence from meat is observed on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday, and all the Fridays of Lent by all Catholics age 14 and older.

Fasting is observed on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday by all Catholics 18 years old but not yet 59. Those bound by this rule may take only one full meal. Two smaller meals are permitted to maintain strength. Eating solid foods between meals is not permitted.

From its earliest days, the church has urged the baptized and catechumens to observe the threefold discipline of fasting, almsgiving and prayer to prepare for Easter. Failure to observe individual days of penance is not considered serious, but failure to observe any penitential days or a substantial number of such days must be considered serious.

During Lent, the Church encourages attendance at daily Mass, self-imposed times of fasting, and generosity to local, national and worldwide programs of sharing.

FEB. 27, 2022: Baptism, season of Lent go hand in hand

Lent is a time before Easter that calls for the refreshing of our understanding of the power and beauty of the Sacrament of Baptism.

Baptism assures us that we don’t make the Christian journey alone; that would be foolhardy. We make it in and with the whole Church, those living and those gone before us, keeping stride and holding hands.

When we falter, the Church picks us up. It’s the Church that asks, “What name do you give to your child?” It is the Church that calls the child by name and welcomes with great joy. It is the Church that claims the baptized for Christ and offers a sign to make belonging to Christ and the Church.

A cloud of witnesses and sponsors pledge to walk with the newly baptized and share the hearing of the story of our faith, one that is heartbreaking and glorious. The baptized is anointed and bathed in blessed water, anointed as a king to meet his people or an athlete for the race. Clothed in white and given a lighted candle and given promises to keep that flame of faith alive.

May the Lent we share and walk through together in this year of the Lord be the best of all, for some the first, for others the final one — for everyone another chance to renew and hold close to our heart the precious treasure that baptism and Faith is.

And the otherwise …

The new young priest was calling on the elderly who no longer could go to church. His first call was to Aunt Sally, who was quite old and in a nursing home.

He was somewhat nervous, and he kept eating peanuts from a bowl beside her bed. When he got up to leave, he noticed that he had eaten all of the peanuts.

“I’m sorry, I ate all of your peanuts,” he stammered.

“Oh, that’s alright,” Aunt Sally said. “I’d already gummed all of the chocolate off of them anyhow.”

FEB. 20, 2022: We all must care for Earth, our common home

If the productive land and sea of Earth were divided equally among the nearly 8 billion of us currently living on the planet, each person would be entitled to about 2.7 acres.

That’s down from 4.2 acres in 2015 because the population has grown by nearly a billion.

From that 2.7 acres we would have to find everything needed to support our life: the food we eat, the material for our home, energy to heat and cool it, water for our lawn and toilets, a place to dispose of our garbage, wood for our furniture, plastic for our kitchen utensils and children’s toys, fibers for our clothes, metals to manufacture our appliances and cars, fuel for our transportation, as well as everything else we use and purchase.

The 2.7 acres would be each person’s fair share of Earth, our common home.

Through a measuring tool called Global footprint, we can determine how much acreage is used by an individual, an industry, or a country. According to a 2015 report, the amount of area it takes to support the average personal lifestyle varies greatly from country to country.

In the U.S., the average person’s lifestyle requires 17.2 acres — not only for personal consumption, but also because of the available infrastructure, food choices, travel options, medical advantages and daily conveniences. A typical Canadian uses 16.2 acres.

If a fair share currently is 2.7 acres, it means others must do with less so that we in affluent nations can maintain our style of living. This disparity gives new meaning to the biblical admonition: “Thou shalt not steal.”

If everyone consumed at the current U.S. and Canadian levels, it would require several more planets. But there is only one.

In “Laudato Si,” his encyclical on caring for creation, Pope Francis calls for an “integral ecology,” which includes people and the planet. A spirit of solidarity with Earth and concern for the entire human family motivates us, he says, “to care for our common home.”

FEB. 13, 2022: Heartache vs. holy when it comes to marriage.

With more than 50 percent of couples living together unmarried now, the uncertainty of commitment — the open-ended nature of vows and rings never exchanged, children born out of wedlock — all add to more heartache instead of the resolution and holiness that can come from blessed marriage.

The reason to pretend being married without vows expressed is to allow a “trying-out” period — making sure he, or she, is the right one.

Does it work?

It seems not.

First marriages ending within five years is 20 percent, but unmarried cohabitations ending within five years is 49 percent and within 10 years is 62 percent. Living together has replaced marriage as the norm in the U.S., but divorce, separation and children living apart from their fathers is higher than ever.

Has the experiment of pretending marriage failed?

It seems so, and the results are a disaster.

Participants at the Syracuse University Maxwell School of Citizenship conference on the Future of Marriage heard that children born out of wedlock were more likely to see their parents split than children born into marriages. Also, all clergy in the U.S were informed that couples who “played house” for more than one year, then were married, experienced a separation and divorce rate three times higher than couples who wait until marriage to move in together.

Heartache versus holy.

FEB. 6, 2022: Do you believe all religions are the same?

Some people like to say, or think, that “all religions are the same.”

Although respect certainly is in order, our regard for other faiths need not place them as “just as good or equal to ours” (Christian/Catholic).

We cannot teach that the colors red and blue are alike, however good it may make you feel. Besides, the first followers of Jesus called their “religion” the “new way” — not just another way.

For example, Hinduism claims reincarnation is a truth, while we believe we have only one life to live, not multiple.

Mormons believe that there is not one God, no Father, Son or Spirit, but rather that a good Mormon man will become god in his own right. We know that God said otherwise. We are not, nor ever will be, gods; we tried that once (Genesis:3) and we’re still paying the price.

The noble Muslim faith still allows, in some strict branches of it, for the stoning death of women who are accused of having relations with someone other than their husband. You recall what our Lord did about a situation like that: “Let the one with no sin be the first to cast a stone.”

To really believe that all religions are the same probably is wishful thinking at best and surely an oversimplification.

JAN. 30, 2022: Listen to what’s going on before talking to Jesus

I tried to catch your attention today.

Remember when you came back to your seat and put your head reverently down and talked to me. I wanted you to listen and open your eyes and look at my broken body all around you.

I tried for your attention when your toddler stood and spoke to you, but you gave me a dirty look and humiliated me and didn’t hear me. I was the unmarried mother in your pew, the old man in front of you, the family of seven across the aisle from you and I almost thought you disapproved of me.

I was the woman whose husband left her this week and whose heart was being eaten out right through Mass and a friendly smile or word would have helped me.

I am your spouse who cooked and coped with the children and the house while you read the Sunday newspaper and then went out. I am your family, and you huffed and gave your cold silent treatment for three long hours after Mass that deadened the whole atmosphere of our home.

I am your parents you ignored and criticized and tortured as only a teen knows how. I am your teen who you’ve lost belief in and your nagging is driving me crazy. I am your neighbor whom you gossip about and criticize. I am your fellow parishioner whom you meet in the street and ignore me.

And it sickens me — all the coldness, squabbling and division that scourge me and crown me with thorns. And then you pierce my side at Holy Communion with your empty words of love. If you love me, feed my sheep, my starving sheep! And start in your own home.

Please don’t keep me at bay any longer. Don’t talk to me. Listen!

I don’t want you to go on loving my spirit and ignoring my body. I don’t want you to open your mouth to receive my body and close your eyes and ears to shut it out. You cannot have Communion with me if you don’t have Communion with your own family and your parish.

Stop thinking of me only as a spiritual being in the skies. I am one with these people, and you cannot have me without them on the last day. I won’t ask how many times you attended Mass; that is not your holiness. I will ask you how your own family and neighbors fared, how they grew in love and faith. How did they live their Mass? How did you spread love across your neighborhood? And how did you celebrate that love and communion at church on Sunday?

JAN. 23, 2022: What are you looking for at Sunday Mass?

Jim Smith went to church on Sunday morning. He heard the organist miss a note during the prelude, and he winced.

He saw a teenager talking when everybody was supposed to “bow in prayer.” He felt like the usher was watching to see what he put in the offering plate and it made him boil.

He caught the preacher making a slip of the tongue five times in the sermon by actual count. As he slipped out through the side door during the closing hymn, he muttered to himself, “never again! What a bunch of clods and hypocrites!”

Ron Jones went to the same Mass on Sunday morning. He heard the organist play an arrangement of “A Mighty Fortress” and he thrilled to the majesty of it.

He heard a young girl take a moment in the service to speak her simple moving message of the difference her faith makes in her life. He was glad to see that his church was sharing in a special offering for the poor. He especially appreciated the sermon that Sunday — it answered a question that had bothered him for a long time.

He thought, as he walked out the doors of the church. “How can a person come here and not feel the presence of God?”

Both men went to the same church on the same Sunday morning. Each found what he was looking for.

What will you be looking for this Sunday?

And the otherwise …

There were three men standing at the Pearly Gates. St. Peter came out to meet them and asked, “What would each of you like to hear your relatives or friends say at your funeral?”

The first man answered, “I am a renowned doctor, and I would love to hear someone say how I had been instrumental in saving people’s lives and giving them a second chance.”

The second man replied, “I am a family man and a schoolteacher. I would like to hear some say what a great husband and father I was and that I had made a diference in some young person’s life.

The third man replied, “Wow, guys, those are really great things, but I guess if I had my choice, I would rather hear someone say, “Look! He’s moving!”

JAN. 16, 2022: When God says ‘no,’ rethink your questions

I asked God to take away my pride, and God said NO. He said it was not for him to take away but for me to give up.

I asked God to grant me patience, and God said NO. He said that patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn’t granted, it’s earned.

I asked God to give me happiness, and God said NO. He said he gives blessings; happiness is up to me.

I asked God to spare me pain, and God said NO. He said suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to Him.

I asked God to make my spirit grow, and God said NO. He said I must grow on my own; but he will prune me to make me fruitful.

I asked God if He loves me, and God said YES. He gave His only Son who died for me, and I will be in heaven some day because I believe.

I asked God to help me love others as much as He loves me and God said, “Ah, finally you have understood.”

And the otherwise …

A couple desperate to conceive a child went to their priest and asked him to pray for them.

“I’m going on a sabbatical to Rome,” he replied, “and while I’m there, I’ll light a candle for you.”

“He’s gone to Rome, to blow out that candle!” came the harried reply.

JAN. 9, 2022: Make better use of opportunities we’re given

The first month of a new year always brings thoughts, hopes and even resolutions about how to be a better person, to enjoy a better year.

One suggestion might be to strive to make better use of the opportunities, gifts and days God gives us. Our choices can make a big difference not only for ourselves, but for the world around us.

Back in 2004, two people won large lottery prizes — but each used their opportunity in different ways.

A man won $315 million on a Powerball lottery, spending much of it on luxury items for himself. Eventually, he was ordered into substance-abuse treatment in West Virginia after his second drunken-driving arrest within a few months.

Debi Faris-Cifelli of California won that state’s Super Lotto Jackpot of $27 million. She provides funerals for abandoned babies and she has helped to inspire a law to save unwanted newborns. Her deep religious faith prompts her to spend a large amount of her winnings in giving simple but prayerful funerals for the little ones and she continues to finance ongoing projects to change laws and enact new ones to save those abandoned.

I saw a bumper sticker awhile back that read, “Do not follow me — I am lost.” This thought made me think, “Am I one of those people going in circles without any set destination in mind? Am I living a life of quiet desperation because I have lost my goal of living? I may have given up on being good, religious, hardworking, and now I am running bored and blind and baffled. Did I lose my way?”

Christianity is not a system of human philosophy, nor a religious ritual, nor a code of ethics; but it is a life imparted to us through Christ.

Jesus Christ is the way, the life and the truth. It is only in Christ, we can know the way of our going, the joy of our life, and the understanding of our living.

And the otherwise …

Right in the middle of his sermon, Father Brown saw that Tony got up and left. He returned to church before the closing hymn. Afterward, Father Brown asked, “Where did you go, Tony?”

“I went to get a haircut” was his reply.

“Buy why didn’t you do that before the Mass?” asked Father Brown.

“Because I didn’t need one then.”

JAN. 2, 2022: Guidelines for sane living in the new year

Strike a balance between work and play — between seriousness and laughter. Go to church regularly, and also to a sporting event.
Stick with the truth, even if it makes you look or feel bad. Falsehoods are like wandering ghosts.
Forgive your enemies as part of the price you pay for the privilege of being forgiven. Realize you are sometimes a pain in the neck yourself.
Walk. Get lots of air and sunshine, and occasionally rain or snow in your face, some dirt on your hands.
Talk through your troubles and mistakes with someone you trust — and your dreams, too. Don’t underestimate the ability of God to straighten out a situation even when you can’t — and give God a little time.
Discriminate among your fears. Learn to tell which ones are useful and which ones are destructive. Remember that the ultimate death rate still is 100 percent. You would be getting short-changed if everyone got to die and you didn’t.
When you can’t sleep, say, “Aha! Here’s a chance for a little privacy and creative thinking. All day I’ve been too busy to pray, and now I can get around to thanking God.”
Fall in love with life, with children, older people, middle-agers, sports cars, the theater, music, books, cities, hills, the sea, the Bible — with everything except money.

Thank you very much

Thank you to those who helped make our Christmas celebration a wonderful and meaningful experience. Many thanks to the music and liturgy ministries, lectors, ministers, altar servers, ushers and those who decorated the church. I also would like to thank the many people who gave me birthday and Christmas gifts. Your generosity is overwhelming.

DEC. 26, 2021: A Christmas prayer and wish for everyone

May the gentle winds of God blow over us at Christmas coming and warm the coldness of our living.

May God’s goodness and the starlight of a Christmas sky fall upon our rough ways.

May the majesty of God be reflected in worldly tinsel of the trees we admire in our homes.

May we see in each other something of the divine that came to us in Jesus.

And may we pause in our earthbound ways and places to risk the possibility of Peace for Christmas.

DEC. 19, 2021: The Final Hour of Advent: The Waiting Prayer

Waiting on line. Waiting in traffic. Waiting for a table. Waiting for Christmas.

Lord,

Life seems to be spent, with so much waiting.

So much of life is time waiting:

Waiting for Christmas.

Waiting for guests to arrive. Waiting for them to leave.

Waiting for so often for so much.

Lord, so much but You —

You the way, the truth and the life. You, the reason for this waiting.

We wish you a Merry Christmas is too easy to say. We wish you and yours a much more profound and involved, a deeper and wider Christmas message and blessings this year.

What wonder that God became one of us in Jesus, knowing how people are capable of walking in darkness and sin.

But God is among us, He became what we are that He might make us what He is — blessings to the faithful and supportive and treasured people of God.

Father Cesta and the parish staff

DEC. 12, 2021: Are peace on Earth, good will to all possible?

Better than the observance of Christmas Day is the idea of keeping Christmas.

Are you willing to:

Forget what you have done for others and remember what others have done for you?
Ignore what the world owes you and think of what you owe the world?
Consider the needs and desires of little children?
Believe that love is the strongest thing in the world and that the life begun in Bethlehem more than 2,000 years ago is the image of eternal love?

Longfellow expressed the sentiment of many in these famous lines:

I heard the bells on Christmas day,

their old familiar carols play,

and wild and sweet the words repeat

of peace on Earth, good will to men.

And in despair I bowed my head:

“There is no peace on Earth,” I said.

“For hate is strong, and mocks the song,

Of peace on Earth, good will to men.

This is a quote from Longfellow about the despair we feel as we look around and see so little must tell you. Longfellow didn’t stop with the lines I quoted. He went on to say:

Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:

“God is not dead, nor doth He sleep.

The wrong shall fail, the right prevail

with peace on Earth, good will to men.”

DEC. 5, 2021: Advent preparation, Christmas rush can coexist

It’s extremely hard to prepare for Christmas in this day and age as a Christian. The season has been thoroughly captured for commercial purposes.

The selling imperative is so strong that one could escape it only by going on an old-fashioned retreat. We’re made to feel guilty if something isn’t purchased every day during December — or earlier.

That is not a preparation for the feast of Emmanuel (God with us). Christmas for us means the Earth-shaking message that God shares life in the flesh with us, knows us in the body, feels as we feel, shares our joys, our sorrows and our hope — shares even the weakness and neediness of a baby.

This is cause for extravagant celebrating and feasting. But without time spent reflecting on where we are and what we’re waiting for, it may be indulgence more than godly celebrating that we do.

It is possible to put up the decorations, do the shopping and everything else associated with Christmas in America while still giving attention to Advent. But it requires sustained attention.

A short period of prayer and reflection each day could do. Use of the Advent wreath and a prayer with it could do it. The practice of extra patience with those we live with and work with could do it. Attending one of the special Advent services offered by area churches could do it. Each of us can think of our own best ways.

If we want Christmas to be a day of love and true peace, preparation is needed. The Church sets aside the weeks of Advent for that. Take advantage of the time left. Take it seriously for self, for your family and friends, for your world. The resulting gift is more valuable, more lasting, than any of the symbols of love that can be wrapped and placed beneath a tree.

NOV. 28, 2021: Advent a fresh start to care for others

Advent is our time to ponder the promises and prophecies God has made to us in Jesus.

Our own image of God also will evolve as life experience and our own needs show us that most people need mercy more than judgment, hope more than fear of punishment.

Advent marks a chance to start fresh, to renew our cooperation with God and our attention to the needs of others as the best preparation for welcoming God.

An old children’s song, “Waiting by the Window,” captures the season:

Waiting by the window

watching all the time go.

Hope that he will come now.

Waiting by the window

just like the people so long ago.

Waiting here for Jesus.

Hope that he will come now.

Hope that he will see me.

Waiting by the window

just like the people so long ago.

Week by week, we light candles to guide the promised visitor to our house. As only children know, our anticipation grows because of the special guest.

And the otherwise …

A cartoon showed a tall, robed and bearded man carrying a sign that read: “The End is Near.” The next frame showed a short, robed and bearded man walking behind him carrying a sign that read: “The End.”

NOV. 21, 2021: Our dearly departed pray for us, too

A young man once said when he was a child and after his grandmother died, he used to “talk” to her in a prayerful and childish way. As he got older, he worried sometimes his behavior might bring sadness to departed souls.

Our church teaches about a communion of saints — a network of those struggling to journey toward God’s presence (Purgatory). We see wrapped up together in a wondrous community “citizens with the saints and members of the household cornerstone,” (Ephesians 2:19-20)

Those who have died are aware of us. We pray for them, and they help and guide our good dreams and intentions. They also lived on Earth and know that life is not a picnic; they sinned and so do we. Don’t suppose God says to their souls, “Forget your loved ones and families down there on my green Earth.”

Those who are with Christ want to help us. If our prayers for each other here are valuable, how much more precious are their prayers for us from God’s heavenly heights. Make them proud of you.

And the otherwise …

A mother was teaching her 3-year-old daughter the Lord’s Prayer. For several evenings at bedtime, she repeated it after her mother. One night she said she was ready to try it on her own. Mother glowed with pride and listened to each word right up to the end: “And lead us not into temptation,” she prayed, “but deliver us some email. Amen.”

NOV. 14, 2021: It’s time to examine, change our perspective

A 70-year-old priest made a retreat. In the course of it, he was struck deeply by three things he’d always been aware of but had never really taken to heart.

First, there are millions of people in the world who are hungry and homeless.

Second, he had spent his entire priestly life living in a comfortable rectory and preaching comfortable homilies to comfortable people.

Third, he had bent over backward to avoid disturbing or alienating his parishioners. He’d been more worried about rocking the boat than about challenging his parishioners to look into their hearts to see if they were satisfied with what they saw there.

As he read the gospel, these words of Jesus leaped off the page: “These people …. honor me with their words but their heart is really far away from me.”

Right then and there, the old priest resolved that he was going to share his soul-searching with his parishioners. So, he began his homily by saying: “My homily this morning will be exactly 30 seconds long. That’s the shortest homily that I’ve preached in my life. But it is also the most important homily I’ve ever preached.

“I want to make just three points: First, millions of people in the world are hungry and homeless. Second, most people in the world don’t give a damn about that. Third, many of you are more disturbed by the fact that I said ‘damn’ in the pulpit than by the fact that I said there are millions of hungry and homeless people in the world.”

With that, the old priest made the sign of the cross and sat down.

And the otherwise …

Ever wonder about the abbreviation ASAP?

Generally, we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives.

Maybe if we think of this abbreviation ASAP (as soon as possible) in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. There’s work to do, deadlines to meet, you have no time to spare — but as you hurry and scurry — ASAP-ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER. In the midst of family chaos, “quality time” is rare. Do your best; let God do the rest — ASAP-ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER

It may seem like your worries are more than you can bear. Slow down and take a breather — ASAP-ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.

Today I’m saying a little prayer that God will smile on you and send you all the special blessings you deserve.

NOV. 7, 2021: God of all seasons, help us learn from creation

By JOYCE RUPP

God of the seasons, there is a time for everything: there is a time for dying and a time for rising. We need courage to enter into the transformation process.

God of autumn, the trees are saying goodbye to their green, letting go of what has been. We, too, have our moments of surrender, with all their insecurity and risk. Help us to let go when we need to do so.

God of fallen leaves lying in colored patterns on the ground, our lives have their own patterns. As we see the patterns of our growth, may we learn from them.

God of misty days and harvest moon nights, there is always the dimension of mystery and wonder in our lives. We always need to recognize your power-filled presence. May we gain strength from this.

God of harvest wagons and fields of ripened grain, may gifts of growth lie within the season of our surrender. We must wait for the harvest in faith and hope. Grant us patience when we do not see the blessings.

God of geese going south for another season, your wisdom enables us to know what needs to be left behind and what needs to be carried into the future. We yearn for insight and vision.

God of flowers touched with frost and windows wearing white designs, may your love keep our hearts from growing cold in the empty seasons.

God of life, you believe in us, you enrich us, you entrust us with the freedom to choose life. For all of this we are grateful. Amen.

OCT. 31, 2021: Don’t deny a loved one a funeral Mass

November is the month that remembers saints and souls. We glory in the saints who have lived lives in imitation of Christ and who have a place in heaven. Because they are full of love, they want to help us and intercede for us. Don’t be afraid to call on them when you need help.

November is also the month of souls. The Church always has believed that every one of us is a sinner in need of the power of the death and resurrection of Christ. Based on this belief, we acknowledge that we died in an imperfect state and therefore need to be purified before we can live with God. We also believe that the holy sacrifice of the Mass has power to forgive sins and purify souls.

This is why it is very troubling when sons and daughters deny their parents a funeral Mass. It’s very selfish when children consider it inconvenient to have a funeral Mass for their deceased relative. It is highly desirable and complete when we observe the death of a loved one in the proper way.

Calling hours help to begin the mourning process. The funeral Mass and burial service with their specific prayers restore our confidence in the power of salvation in Christ Jesus, purify the soul of the deceased and allow us to bid farewell to our loved one and hope for the day when we will see him or her again. Thinking it through logically and understanding the value of the whole funeral process makes you realize that you wouldn’t want to do anything else.

The long tradition of the Church also includes the remembering of loved ones on the anniversary of death. Because we never assume heaven for our loved ones, we continue to pray for them and invoke the mercy and love of God for each of his children.

Remember that the Church can be experienced in three aspects: the Church Triumphant made up of those who have lived the Christian life and live with God in heaven. The Church in Purgation is those who have died and are being purified by God’s mercy and your prayers. The Church on Earth is you and I walking life’s journey and accepting the grace of salvation.

OCT. 24, 2021: Ask the Spirit to help you make changes

The divorce court judge was dumbfounded.

Before him were an older couple, both in their 90s, their 70th wedding anniversary was only weeks away.

“Why after all these years are you asking for a divorce?” the judge asked them.

The wife explained, “We wanted to wait until all of our children were — dead.”

Many of us wait much too long to confront a difficult situation, hoping it will just go away. We are reluctant to make a change when it’s called for.

Jesus never feared making changes or facing difficult situations. When one village didn’t respond with faith or trust, the Lord moved quickly to another place.

Seeking the guidance and wisdom of the Holy Spirit in dealing with changes that are needed or coping with tough situations is a worthy prayer.

In every season of our faith, we should once in a while ask ourselves the question, “Do we have the courage to do something about it?” This means do something about whatever it takes to improve a situation or correct a wrong or reconcile a dispute.

Also think about this: there’s so much good in the worst of us and so much bad in the best of us, it’s really hard to figure out which ones of us ought to change the rest of us.

OCT. 17, 2021: When Mary spoke, it was worth listening

October is one of those months that we focus devotion on Mary, with her many titles — Mother of God, Tower of Ivory, Lady of Perpetual Help, etc.

We seldom think of Mary, however, as Mother of the Word of God. Jesus is God’s Word become Flesh. She is mother of that Blessed Word!

How ironic that we usually think of Mary as the woman wrapped in silence, keeping everything in her heart, not saying much. How could Mother of the Word remain silent?

When we survey the Gospels, we find that the Blessed Mother often spoke, and her words carried weight. She interrogates the angel Gabriel, asking how she will have a baby. She speaks in poetic verses when greeted by Elizabeth, her cousin. It is Mary who speaks up and asks the child Jesus who had left Joseph and Mary for three days in Jerusalem, “My child, why have you done this to us?”

Mary is the one to talk up the need for Jesus to work a miracle at the Wedding in Cana — “Son, they have no more wine.”

She must have spoken to Christ upon the cross those three hours — for He spoke to her while dying for us.

Tradition tells us Mary prayed with the early Church at the first Pentecost.

Mary, whom we honor during October, was a woman of silence, sorrow and contemplation — but also a woman of words, joy and action. She was a woman of the Word who gave her word, “Yes,” so that the Word could become Flesh and dwell among us.

The saints

The saints are who they are, not because the gift of sainthood makes it possible for them to admire everybody else.

It gives them a clarity of compassion that can find good in the most terrible criminals. It delivers them from the burden of judging others, condemning others. It teaches them to bring the good out of others by compassion, mercy and pardon.

We become saints, not by conviction that we are better than sinners, but by the realization that we are one of them, and that altogether we need the mercy of God.

OCT. 10, 2021: Prayer of the Faithful more fruit of the vine

In this time of the year, we look forward to the making of wine, especially as the next weeks bring us to golden autumn in October.

In their sun-ripened bunches, the grapes differ from each other in their colors, scents and taste. A Concord grape isn’t a Muscadine.

But they are all “fruit of the vine and the wine is the work of human hands.”

Sound familiar?

The prayer over the gifts at the altar table reminds us that even the Holy Mass and the prayers we offer at liturgy are “fruit of the vine and work of human hands and hearts,” especially the part of the Mass we call the Prayer of the Faithful — those petitions and prayers seeking the Lord’s help. These really are from among the people — from the earth, these prayers are fruit of the vine.

The Prayer of the Faithful — which you can read and ponder on our website and in the bulletin weekly — should include current needs that speak of things on our minds and in our hearts right now.

The fruit of our faith is our genuine concern for all those Christ loves and cherishes, so our petition prayers should reflect that in one way or another.

OCT. 3, 2021: October celebrates what’s past, what’s to come

October serves as a colorful and refreshing seasonal waystation between the extremes of summer past and winter to come.

Dazzling foliage abounds, flies and mosquitoes all but disappear, and there’s a crisp bite in the air that cries out for sweaters and jackets.

Yes, the days grow shorter. Yet we experience, in the words of writer Maxine Kumin, the “briefest and most beautiful moment of stasis. … Every day is more precious than the preceding. Dusk comes earlier in sharper air. The horses’ coats thicken, blurring their summer-sleek outlines. Everything proclaims: ‘We are reluctant. We are ready.’”

That seems the story of our lives: reluctant and ready. Let us count our blessings today, knowing full well that dusk comes early.

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

SEPT. 26, 2021: Be a good steward in thanks for God’s gifts

A Sunday school teacher asked her class why they should be quiet while in church.

One bright girl said: “Because there’s people sleeping in there!”

Of course, a few more things happen in church — worship, prayer, praise in word and song, the blessing and sharing of sacraments and the giving of gifts.

God gives us gifts beyond our imagining — life, the created world around us, the opportunity for love within family and friends.

Good stewardship in the household of the church recognizes the benefits and gifts we enjoy from God and the faith we share, and it also recognizes our need to be givers for the sake of the church’s life and the help of others. We know that the word “tithe” means to give one tenth back to God’s purposes.

A very moving story goes like this: A missionary in Africa had taught people about tithing. He explained the difference between giving from what is left over and giving right off the top.

Early one morning a native man came to the door with one fine fish — this was his “tithe” for the parish family. The missionary said, “You must have done well if you already caught 10 fish so early today.”

“No” said the man, “This is the only one so far. Now I’m going back and try to catch the other nine.”

Impressive!

And the otherwise …

A priest preached a very short sermon. He explained, “My dog got into my study and chewed up some of my sermon notes.” At the close of the Mass a visitor asked, “If your dog ever has pups, please let my priest have one of them.

SEPT. 19, 2021: ‘Listen to your grandparents’

The words of Pope Francis:

Let me ask you: Do you listen to your grandparents? Do you open your hearts to the memories that your grandparents pass on?

Grandparents are like the wisdom of the family; they are the wisdom of a people. And a people that does not listen to grandparents is one that dies! Listen to your grandparents.

Mary and Joseph are the family, sanctified by the presence of Jesus who is the fulfillment of all God’s promises. Like the Holy Family of Nazareth, every family is part of the history of a people; it cannot exist without the generations who have gone before it.

Therefore, today we have grandparents and children. The children learn from their grandparents from the previous generation.

How important grandparents are for family life, for passing on the human and religious heritage, which is so essential for each and every society! How important it is to have intergenerational exchanges and dialogue, especially within the context of the family.

This relationship and this dialogue between generations is a treasure to be preserved and strengthened. Grandparents: let us salute grandparents. Young people salute their grandparents with great affection, and they thank them for the ongoing witness of their wisdom.

And the otherwise …

Grandson: “Gramps, you look down in the dumps. Are you worried about something?”

Grandpa: “Yes, I am. My future.”

Grandson: “What makes you worry about your future?”

Grandpa: “My past.”

SEPT. 12, 2021: Does God love some people more than others?

This old, disputed question has centuries of history: Is there a chosen race? Are some predestined for heaven or hell?

Does God love the poor more than the rich? Sinners more than the righteous? Virgins more than married people?

On the surface, scripture seems to suggest that God loves some people more than others. The question is hard to answer because it’s a false one.

When Jesus says there is more joy in heaven over the conversion of one strayed sinner than over 99 others who have no need of repentance, he is not affirming that God loves sinners more than righteous persons. For Jesus, in this context, there are no righteous persons — there only are sinners (who feel their need for conversion) and self-righteous persons (sinners who have not yet acknowledged their need for repentance). Conversion is not a precondition to the Christian life. It is the Christian life. God does favor sinners, but that includes all of us.

The same is true about whether God loves the poor more than the rich. Jesus says that God has a preferential love for the poor, but does that mean God loves the rich less?

Again, we must be careful how we contrast the categories: poor versus rich. What’s being affirmed is not that God loves us better when we are poor than when we are rich. The idea is that God loves us in our poverty when we more easily let ourselves beloved and more easily express gratitude when we acknowledge our poverty.

For Jesus, there are only two kinds of persons: Those who are poor and those who are not yet in touch with their own poverty. It’s not that God prefers us poor and loves us better when we are poor. God does favor the poor, but, if we truly know our own condition, that’s all of us.

When Jesus holds up little children as an ideal, he is not teaching that God loves children more than adults. The contrast is not between little children and grownups, but between those who, like little children, know their need for help and those who because of pride or wound no longer admit their need for God and others. It’s when we admit the deep truth that we are not self-sufficient, we open ourselves to be loved by God and others. God does favor those who are childlike, but hopefully, that includes all of us.

Does God play favorites?

Yes, but not between and among different persons, but between and among different states inside our own souls.

SEPT. 5, 2021: Being nice not enough if you’re called Christian

Being a Christian means more than just being a “nice” person. Anyone can do this by simply smiling and saying “please” and “thank you.”

Being a Christian also means more than following the Ten Commandments. Jewish people follow the Ten Commandments, and they aren’t Christians. So, what is unique about being a Christian?

Fundamentally, it means believing in and following Jesus. But even this is too generic.

I think the last couple of lines of the Beatitudes gets to the heart of the matter. We hear Jesus speaking about being blessed if we are persecuted for the sake of righteousness. He goes on to say that we are blessed if we are insulted and persecuted because of Him. This is uniquely Christian.

Certainly, people have been persecuted because of their religion throughout history. Millions of Jews died during World War II simply for being Jewish. But Christians are persecuted because other people disagree with the message of Jesus. No one wants to be persecuted, but Jesus is warning us that it’s part of following Him.

Many Christians in our society today don’t want to offend anyone. How else can we explain a predominantly Christian society that allows abortion on demand?

What our nation needs now are Christians interested in more than just being nice. We need Christians who are not afraid to speak Christ’s message about the dignity of every human life, even if insults and persecution are the results.

And the otherwise …

Heaven is a place where: The lovers are Italian, the cooks are French, the mechanics are German, the police are English and the government is run by the Swiss;

Hell is a place where: The lovers are Swiss, the cooks are English, the mechanics are French, the police are German and the government is run by Italians.

AUG. 29, 2021: Share something of yourself with others

“No cover charge, no minimum and everybody is welcomed.”

That’s how Bruce Renfroe, an elevator operator in New York City, described the elevator that he transformed into a mini jazz club about 25 years ago. He permanently injured his knee and was put on elevator duty where he sat just inside the doors — his love for jazz inspired him to share it with his elevator passengers each day.

His 30-second ride was known as an oasis in a rushed and confusing world of commuters in the Big Apple. Inside his elevator you were greeted with black and white photos of jazz artists, hanging plants and the smooth and soothing sound of good music. His gift of something he personally loves helped to mellow out so many busy people.

How do you share with other something of yourself?

Something you know will enrich another person’s life — at home, at work, in school.

St. Paul writing to his converts in the Greek port city of Corinth said, “God loves a cheerful giver.” This doesn’t mean just money or material resources, it includes our own delights and what fascinates or captivates us, our hearts, our senses, our soul.

And the otherwise …

Some go to church to take a walk;

some go there to laugh and talk.

Some go there to meet a friend;

some go there, their time to spend.

Some go there to meet a lover;

some go there a fault to cover.

Some go there for speculation,

some go there for observation.

Some go there to doze and nod.

The wise go there to worship God.

AUG. 22, 2021: A ‘love note’ to our recently confirmed young adults

You know the old joke about the two church pastors complaining about the bats in their bell towers?

One says, “No problem, to get rid of them just baptize them and give them Confirmation; you’ll never see them again!”

Unfortunately, it’s not always just a joke. Too many of our wonderful young people recently confirmed by our bishop have vanished from weekend Mass, the community of the faithful.

Just as each family puts so much hope and dreams in the younger ones — gifted, energetic and lively — so, too, our parish household has invested much hope and expectations in the young adults confirmed in the Catholic faith.

Some are seen and take their place at the table of the Lord on weekends — most do not.

Young people are pulled in many directions — sports has become one of the sacraments, part-time jobs, school — they are occupied, and God bless them. But it will be much tougher, maybe impossible, to fit in Mass and weekend worship later in life if young people never weave it into the fabric of their lives now.

Who will be the parish in the near future?

I sent a personal “love note” to each of those confirmed this year, affirming those who try to be part of our parish scene, encouraging others to get into it, at least once or twice a month. Maybe when school starts we’ll see more of these great kids who are the treasure of the faith community.

Parents, grandparents and godparents are asked to put in a good word for keeping the Lord’s Day. Tell them the Good Shepherd wants to friend them on God’s Facebook and wants to stay in touch.

AUG. 15, 2021: Eucharist a personal relationship with Christ

How is Jesus present in the Eucharist?

Most of us, at one time or another, find ourselves either asking that question or trying to explain the mystery for someone else. Catholics believe that the body and blood of Jesus are present in consecrated bread and wine. We do not say the Eucharist is “like” the body and blood of Jesus, but that it “is” the body and blood of Jesus.

Jesus, in the Eucharist, wants to be and is deeply present to us in love and in compassion. Only when we begin to understand the Eucharist as a time when Jesus is not distant, but close; not aloof, but very intimate; not above us, but profoundly near us; not judging us, but compassionate toward us, will we truly be able to relate this teaching of the Church to our faith and devotion.

There is no doubt that a body-and-blood relationship exists between a mother and her child. But they don’t think of each other as body and blood. They think about the human relationship between them, whether or not it is mutually loving.

It’s the same way in the Eucharistic celebration. We have a body-and-blood relationship with God in Christ. In this encounter, we no longer get stuck on the elements of bread and wine or body and blood. This is because we experience persons instead of things, relationships instead of magic.

Real reverence must be for the person of Christ and for all people for whom he died — the two are inseparable. That is why people are called the Body of Christ.

AUG. 8, 2021: Keeping the faith, even with those who don’t

Our faith is a gift from God.

Like the wealthy merchant who gave 10 talents to his servants and left for a long journey, however, we will not be praised at the master’s return if we did nothing but bury his gifts in the ground (Luke 19:12-27).

None of us are popes or presidents or mega-stars with millions of social media followers — but then neither were any of Jesus’ 12 chosen disciples. We, like them, need only possess one loaf of faith, one fish of faith, even just one mustard seed of faith. God, in his great love, will provide the rest.

As you encounter people in your life who have no faith, be loving and patient with them. We are all on our own journey, and each of us enters the path from a different point on the road.

The church fathers tell us to meet people where they are and guide them from there. Just as not all people in church belong to God, there are many who belong to God who aren’t in church. Accept them, love them, welcome them, witness your faith to them.

With a solid faith, God the Father will adopt you as his child, God the Son will receive you as his own, and God the Holy Spirit will dwell in you as his temple. And with that, you can move mountains.

Religious or spiritual?

Catholics should be both.

Source: Liguori Publications, including Spiritual but Not Religious, a 2015 pamphlet by Mathew J. Kessler (824975); and “Power of Faith,” an article by Joe Baumgarten in the March 2021 edition of “Liguorian.”

AUG. 1, 2021: ABC’s of being a good Christian

One Christian minister and pastor shocked the people gathered in the church when he pointed out that some who claim to be followers of Christ and are called Christians, really aren’t.

The pastor said many are “four-wheel” Christians, which means they visit church in a baby stroller to be christened, in a limousine to be married, and finally in a hearse to be buried.

May we suggest the ABC’s of genuine and tested Christian behavior. They are:

Act instead of arguing.
Build instead of brag.
Climb instead of criticizing.
Dig instead of depreciating.
Encourage instead of envy.
Fight instead of faint.
Give instead of grumble.
Help instead of hinder.
Improve instead of ignoring.
Join instead of jeer.
Kneel instead of kick.
Love instead of lampoon.
Move instead of mold.
Nurture instead of neglect.
Obey instead of object.
Pray instead of pout.
Qualify instead of quitting.
Rescue instead of ridicule.
Shout instead of shrinking.
Try instead of tremble.

And the otherwise …

A father was approached by his small son who told him proudly, “I know what the Bible means!”

His father smiled and replied, “What do you mean, you ‘know’ what the Bible means?

The son replied, “I do know!”

“OK,” said his father. “What does the Bible mean?”

“That’s easy, daddy,” the young boy replied excitedly. “It stands for ‘Basic Information Before Leaving Earth.’”

JULY 25, 2021: Some misconceptions about the Catholic Church

The Catholic Church has been around for more than 2,000 years — and we’ve been misunderstood for just about that long as well.

Today, Catholics often are the butt of jokes by comedians, and often scorned by others.

Here are some of these misconceptions — and the truth about the Catholic faith:

The Catholic Church is not biblical.

The Catholic Church is deeply Biblical. Jesus’ followers gathered the sacred writings and established the fundamental books of the Bible in the first centuries of the Church. All Catholic worship is based on a careful reading and presentation of the Bible.

The Catholic Church is authoritarian.

Catholic life is not run by the pope; rather, Catholic life unfolds in local parish congregations. The pope and bishops give guidance on certain fundamental issues of faith and good living, but all pastors do that. The Church believes fundamentally in the freedom of the human conscience.

Catholics are superstitious and worship idols.

Catholics worship only God. We pray to saints as our older brothers and sisters in faith, who are united with us in Christ. Sacred images inspire us and focus our thoughts and prayer.

Catholics are hung up on sex.

Catholics do take sex very seriously because they see it as a beautiful and important gift from God. Catholics encourage personal discipline in the exercise of sexual activity.

JULY 18, 2021: Celebrate our past; invite others to our future

As the parish household of St. Mary Mount Carmel / Blessed Sacrament marks its 125th anniversary, there certainly is much to celebrate and for which to be grateful.

This parish is — in the eyes and hearts of many families and people — the jewel of East Utica. Not only is the actual church a work of art and faith-inspired beauty, but moreover, the memorable moments of education, sacraments, feasts, holy days and holidays etched upon the spirits of many good Catholic people.

There’s much to be thankful for, and much to support and be involved with as the parish moves into the future with its own blessings and challenges. These are times that do not encourage the practice of our faith as happened in years gone by. Our mandate — our job — is to look for ways to share the joy, peace and fellowship of this Christian and Catholic community with others — especially with family and friends who might just need a word of invitation, the nudge if you will, to a fuller life in the Spirit.

The advancing deterioration of Catholic life and style in our homes is not necessarily a losing battle; it only happens when people of faith do nothing. There are many opportunities around and within our lives that bring us entertainment, knowledge, good feelings in body and mind — Netflix, health clubs, drive-thru food and casinos.

That’s true.

But long-lasting peace, pardon, wisdom, joy and friendships have been enjoyed and celebrated in the 125 years of this parish and, hopefully, will reach far into the future that the Good Lord gives to his faithful ones.

JULY 11, 2021: Real peace comes from Jesus, not our lives

A young French Canadian priest offered this perspective:

“I work with university students as a chaplain. They have a zest for life and an energy that I can only envy. But inside of all this zest and energy, I notice that they lack hope because they don’t have a big story, a big vision, that can give them perspective beyond the ups and downs of their everyday lives.

“When their health, relationships and lives are going well, they feel happy and full of hope; but the reverse is also true. When things aren’t going well, the bottom falls out of their world. They don’t have anything to give them a vision beyond the present moment.”

In essence, what he is describing might be called “the peace that this world can give us.”

In his farewell discourse, Jesus contrasts two kinds of peace: a peace that he leaves us and a peace that the world can give us. The peace that the world can give us is not a negative or a bad peace. It is real and good, but it is fragile and inadequate because it can easily be taken away from us.

Peace, as we experience it ordinarily in our lives, generally is predicated on feeling healthy, loved and secure. But all of these are fragile. They can change radically with one visit to the doctor, with an unexpected dizzy spell, with sudden chest pains, with the loss of a job, with the rupture of a relationship, with the suicide of a loved one, or with multiple kinds of betrayal that can blindside us.

We try mightily to take measures to guarantee health, security and the trustworthiness of our relationships, but we live with a lot of anxiety, knowing these always are fragile.

What Jesus offers is a peace that is not fragile, that is beyond fear and anxiety and does not depend upon feeling healthy, secure and loved. At the Last Supper and as he was dying, Jesus offered us his gift of peace. It is the absolute assurance that we are connected to the source of life in such a way that nothing, absolutely nothing, can ever sever — not bad health, not betrayal by someone, indeed, not even our own sin.

We are unconditionally loved and held by the source of life itself and nothing can change that. Nothing can change God’s unconditional love for us.

JULY 4, 2021: Make stewardship a part of ‘ships’ we sail

Awhile back, a sign was seen on the desk of a successful store owner and popular figure in the city where the man lived. The sign simply read: “Do all you can in the time you have and in the place where you are.”

What a recipe for success!

It’s a great motto to live by and motivate oneself for doing good things and accomplishing much — whether it’s caring for and providing for a family, making a mark in your community, or expressing your love for God by guarding and promoting the life of your church and faith.

The word “stewardship” sums up the care, support and guardianship that our church and faith call for.

There was a merchant who had a fleet of ships — they crossed the seas and earned riches for the merchant. But one ship just never sailed at all, it only stayed in port and brought only disappointment to the owner.

Our life in the church is like having a fleet of ships.

One is called fellowship — a closeness with the Lord through sacraments and prayer.

The other is called discipleship as we learn to walk in the steps of the Savior and understand the scriptures and enjoy the blessings of the Mass.

Then there is friendship, which is found when folks gather for the celebration of the sacraments.

And the social ship in our fleet sometimes never leaves the dock in port, that is stewardship — some just never embrace the caring, support and guardianship for the church that should be part of that blessed fleet.

For those who do, the words on the man’s desk really must ring true: “Do all you can with what you have in the time you have and in the place where you are.”

JUNE 27, 2021: Advice to graduates: Integrity is invaluable

With many families proud of recent graduates, the following story reminds us that integrity is one of the best qualifications to bring from high school and college into the graduates’ future.

Two young men were supposed to take final exams after a college semester. They were confident about the exams, so they went to a party in a nearby town the day before the exam.

They both partied too much and overslept their exam day — with hangovers included. They found the professor and told him their car had gotten a flat tire in a nearby town and had no way to repair it — that was their excuse.

The experienced and wise professor prepared a makeup exam for them. The two boys were put in separate rooms and each handed the examination. The first page was a simple chemistry question, but turning the page they each found the next question rather perplexing: “Which tire?”

Integrity is an invaluable quality.

And the otherwise …

Let’s suppose that you had a bank that each morning credited your account with $1,440 — with one condition: Whatever part you failed to spend during the day would be erased from your account with no balance carried over.

What would you do?

You’d draw out every cent, every day and use it to the best advantage.

Well, you do have a bank, and its name is TIME. Every morning it credits you with 1,440 minutes. It rules off as forever lost whatever portion of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. Nor is there any drawing against tomorrow.

Tomorrow cannot be found on God’s calendar. Tomorrow sounds so innocent, but it is life’s most dangerous word. Tomorrow is the road that leads to the town called Never. Tomorrow is the barred and bolted door that shuts out people from heaven.

Tomorrow is the nursemaid of hell. Tomorrow is Satan’s word. Those who expect to repent tomorrow usually die today.

Don’t count on tomorrow.

JUNE 20, 2021: Being a dad a tough job; Happy Father’s Day

Just what makes a good father?

Once, it automatically meant that most men were the main breadwinners, providing for their families. Now, it means being involved with every aspect of their wives’ and children’s lives.

Author Bruce Linton wrote “Finding Time for Fatherhood: Men’s Concerns as Parents.”

“What I think is happening is not that men value work less,” he writes, “but that fatherhood is becoming equally important. While work was once the only source of meaning for a man, fatherhood and parenting have become as important to his self-esteem as his work.”

A good father must show loyalty, love, respect, patience and passion, says Margaret O’Connell, a Manhattan based writer.

“He must be man enough to express his nurturing, gentle, caring, creative, intelligent and peace-filled nature freely with his daughters and sons,” she writes.

There’s no denying it: fatherhood today is a tall order.

How to bring down your children

Provide them with plenty of free spending money.
Permit them to choose his or her own companions without restraint or direction.
Give them a key to allow them to return home at any hour of the night.
Make no inquiry as to where and with whom they spend leisure hours.
Let them understand that manners make a good substitute for morals.
Let them expect pay for every act of helpfulness.
Let them spend church-time on the street or playing sports instead of in church.
Be careful never to let them hear you pray.

JUNE 13, 2021: Symptoms of inner peace can be contagious

Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace.

The hearts of a great many already have been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to the never-ending condition of conflict in the world.

Some signs for which to look:

A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences.
An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
A loss of interest in judging other people.
A loss of interest interpreting the actions of others.
A loss of ability to worry. (This is a serious symptom.)
Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature.
Frequent attacks of smiling.
An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen.
An increased susceptibility to the love offered by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it.

And the otherwise …

Many folks want to serve God, but only as advisers.

It is easier to preach 10 sermons than it is to live one.

The good Lord didn’t create anything without a purpose, but mosquitoes come close.

JUNE 6, 2021: Special message from parents to their children

With college graduations just behind us and high school commencements on the horizon, many cherished young people are taking another important and significant step on the road of life — and good parents can feel some satisfaction in watching the progress of their children.

No diploma or certification is handed to these parents — whether they be a couple or single parent — their reward so often is to treasure the goodness, talent and success of their sons or daughters in their heart.

The wisdom and challenge involved in being a good parent is expressed well in the following:

I Loved You Enough

Some day when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them:

I loved you enough to ask you about where you were going, with whom and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to insist that you buy a bike with your own money that we could have afforded to give you.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your handpicked friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that would have taken me 15 minutes to do myself.
I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, disgust and tears in my eyes.
I loved you enough to admit I was wrong and ask for your forgiveness.
I loved you enough to let you stumble, fall and hurt.
I loved you enough to let you assume responsibility for your actions at 6, 10 and 16.
But most of all, I loved you enough to say NO when you hated me for it. That was the hardest part of all.

MAY 30, 2021

Every living thing needs nourishment — including our hearts and spirits.

Going to Mass brings about direct contact with the Body of Christ in Holy Communion and in the community of faith. Going to Mass draws us from the self-absorption of our lives and directs us to the grace and power of God.

Nothing substitutes for being at the Eucharist.

We are not giving God the love and focus that God should have in our lives.

We are not growing in the Word of God that we read and celebrate on Sunday. We need God’s Word.

We are not receiving one of the greatest gifts that Jesus left us — his Body and his Blood.

We are not contributing to building up the community of Christ by our presence, witness and service.

We are depriving our children of the intimate knowledge of God that they deserve.

We deprive ourselves of a profound sense of peace and love.

We are weakening the Christian faith.

It’s not hard to start back to church. Every parish church is waiting for you. Begin with a visit to feel the peace and sense the fellowship. Stay for Mass and come back for a few Sundays.

Then talk to a priest — he’d love to chat with you about returning and getting more out of the Mass.

Then stick with your new plan to put God first in your life and receive the gifts only God can give you.

MAY 23, 2021

Come Holy Spirit, send out from heaven the rays of your light. Come Father of the poor. Come giver of the gifts. Come light of hearts.

Encourage our best. Be our spirit’s guest. When things become heated, be our sweet coolness. When we are working, be our rest. When we are in sorrow be our inner peace.

Light most bright, enlighten the hearts of your faithful. Without your power we can do nothing, and nothing is right. Wash what is sordid, water what is arid, cure what is sick, bend what is rigid, warm what is chilling, correct what is devious.

Give to the faithful to those who trust in you, your seven holy gifts. Give them virtue’s reward, give them salvation at their end. Give them never ending joy. Amen

Scripture tells us that God’s Spirit can enable people to even speak other languages — at Pentecost for instance. This is usually what comes to mind when we think of “speaking tongues.”

The phenomenon of a kind of “holy babbling or praise also is part of the Spirits’ working for many persons of faith. But think of this, too: A person who is filled with the Spirit can speak several languages that are ways of witnessing to Christ. To “speak” the language of humility, poverty, obedience to God’s Word, the language of patience with others, of care and sensitivity to others needs. Can we not consider these the languages of the faithful person, prompted by the Spirit of God?

Language comes alive when it is translated into action and deeds. So often we become bloated with words. Do not forget the fig tree that was cursed by the Lord Himself when he found that it bore no fruit, only leaves.

And speaking of words …

“Man doesn’t live by bread alone. He needs buttering up once in a while.” — Robert Henry

“There is a great distance between said and done.” — Puerto Rican Proverb

“The great dividing line between success and “someday is not a day of the week.”

“Failure can be stated in five words. I did not have time.”

“The mind is a bit like a garden. If it isn’t fed and cultivated, weeds will take it over.”

“No matter how great the man, the size of his funeral usually depends on the weather.”

MAY 16, 2021

I’ve read many things over the years about the famous author Franz Kafka, but never have read that much by him. His stories are filled with such gloom and distress they didn’t appeal to me.

But there must have been something very special about that man who could do what he did during the final months of his life when he was dying of tuberculosis.

And the otherwise …

A new priest gives his first homily at Mass. Later, the old pastor asks a good parishioner how it went,

“It was bad — no story, no substance.”

Just then the young priest walks in. The pastor confronts him and says, “I hear your homily wasn’t good!”

The new guy says, “I got too busy the last few days, so I just read one of your old ones.”

MAY 9, 2021

Mary, the mother of God, is not a woman protected from the demands of faith in daily living.

She is a woman with her feet planted firmly on Earth — Mary of Nazareth, the woman whose risk in faith first made Christ present among us.

It is precisely in this way that Mary is the best and first model for the contemporary woman — not as a mysterious icon of unattainable blessedness, but as an altogether human woman who was painfully misunderstood by the man she loved, Joseph; who was confused by her child’s behavior; who was not afraid to speak her mind or voice her questions; who stood by courageously while her son was executed; who was present at the outpouring of the Holy Spirit on the new Church; and who, indeed, had a role of leadership in that Church.

When Mary’s place in the life of the Church is really recognized and understood, the place of all women in the Church is assured — not as onlookers or maidservants, but as important co-workers, as necessary for the incarnation of Christ in our world as Mary was to the first Incarnation.

And the otherwise …

A teacher asked her class a question in fractions.

“If your mother baked a pie for seven people for you five children and your parents, what fraction of the pie would you get?”

“A sixth,” said a young boy.

“But there are seven of you!” exclaimed the teacher. “Don’t you know anything about fractions?”

“Yes” came the reply. “I know about fractions, but I know about mothers, too. My mother would say she didn’t want any pie.”

MAY 2, 2021

Have you ever told something exciting to a young child and watched their reaction to it? They can’t wait to tell somebody else, even a stranger happening to walk by.

The Eastertime gospels send us a message to be like little kids and share the joy of the Lord’s risen life with others, to spread the word about faith and enjoying life within the sacramental church and God’s people.

It’s not that our faith is found wanting or lacking for anything, it’s just that so often the “news” has not yet leaked out. Too many, even in the Easter season, still walk among the dead, like the Magdalene, or wait and crouch in fear behind closed doors, like the disciples.

Remember, if the basis of Christianity were anything else than a God who came from a tomb, we’d have nothing to shout about.

Peace be with you.

And the otherwise …

A mother was preparing pancakes for her sons. The boys began to argue over who would get the first pancake. Their mother saw the opportunity for a moral lesson.

“If Jesus were sitting here, He would say, ‘Let my brother have the first pancake, I can wait.’”

One of them turned to the other and said, “You be Jesus!”

APRIL 25, 2021

A pastor was calling on parishioners who were somewhat lax in practicing their faith, especially weekend Mass.

One fellow gave this nasty answer to the invitation to come back to church:

“Father, when I was a baby, you poured water all over me, and when I grew up you tied me to a woman I’ve had to support all these years. I’m miserable.”

The pastor said, “Oh, yes, and the next time you have anything to do with the church, I’ll probably be throwing a bit of dirt on you.”

The man’s involvement with church was limited to baptism, marriage and burial.

Our communion with church is characterized by prayer, hearing the same word of God proclaimed at Mass, sharing in the Bread of Life and partaking of the Cup of Blessing — also our service of others and the world and finding Jesus in the disguise of the needy, as St. Mother Teresa said.

Our Catholic love for the gift of life and our pledge to defend life from conception to dying, devotion for the saints and sacramental view of seasons and creation is paramount. All this keeps us in lively communion with what being church is all about.

Sounds like much more than only baptism, marriage and burial, doesn’t it?

APRIL 18, 2021

A website produced by the Jesuit Community Centre in Ireland (www.jesuit.ie/prayer) encourages people to find a personal way of praying.

One of the biggest dead ends in developing my spiritual life is to want to have someone else’s spiritual life, says one of the meditations found on the site.

“I may find myself thinking, ‘I wish I could pray like them.’ But if I am a schoolteacher, or an accountant, or looking after my children all day, then that rhythm of prayer might not be suited to me.”

Pray as you can, not as you can’t is a maxim that is overlooked frequently, leading to a lot of unrealistic expectations. Look within, and you will find that you really can pray anywhere and everywhere.

“For years, I thought more spiritual life was something out there to be achieved by people with a bent holiness — not for someone ordinary like me, who juggles a zillion daily demands and hasn’t the time for more than church on Sunday and a quick prayer at night,” notes Barbara Bartocci in Episcopal Life. She offers these suggestions:

“Alarm Clock Alleluia:” When your alarm goes off, pray the psalm, “This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad.” Commit to a day of gratitude.

“Telephone Thanksgiving:” Say a brief prayer of thanks each time you answer the phone today.

“The Gas Pump Minute:” As you pump gas, visualize God’s spirit flowing into you and filling you with holy energy.

“Red Light Contrition:” When you’re stopped at a traffic light, ask yourself if you’ve been rude or otherwise failed to live up to your best. Pray a sincere “I’m sorry.”

APRIL 11, 2021

The scenery doesn’t change. The view never shifts. You feel the wheels spinning and hear the engine revving, but you just aren’t going anywhere.

Congratulations: You’re stuck in a rut. It can happen in life, in love, in work and, believe it or not, in faith.

The life of grace and holiness we were striving to achieve becomes more like drudgery. Go to work. Make dinner. Walk the dog. Go to church. Repeat.

What can a Christian do?

The real question, I think, is: What can a Christian be?

Turning faith into merely something you do misses the beautiful reality that faith — what we believe and how we live it — is the sum and substance of who we are.

So, first, be thankful. Second, be generous. Be prayerful.

Make gratitude the foundation of your prayer life. Develop a habit of writing down what you are thankful for. As you read your list, give God thanks and praise for your blessings.

Find something you can do to be generous with God. Visit someone who is lonely or sick, or volunteer at your parish as an usher, bulletin stuffer or small group leader. Or think about what you can do without and share more of what you have been given. Gain a renewed sense of purpose and mission by praying before meals, at the start of any project, or the end of a long day.

APRIL 4, 2021 EASTER

As we enjoy the spirit and melody of this Eastertime and the sound of Alleluia, we also know it is not easy to follow the Risen Lord in our daily lives. Even though we journey in faith under the banner of the cross and the victory of Resurrection, it isn’t easy — is it?

A young man is unwilling to forgive his father for years of neglect and bitter feelings. A widow cannot forgive herself for the torment she caused to her daughter. A middle-aged man blames God for the loss of his business and the breakup of his family, though he knows in his heart the true cause of it all.

Despite setbacks and things that frustrate us in life, we still sign our bodies with the mark of salvation — the sign of the cross — over and over again. Even when we are walking in the pastures of anger or the meadows of jealousy, the sign of the cross is a sign of the hope that tells us we live within the embrace of the Blessed Trinity, with a hope for the Risen Life, and our bodies and lives are part of the larger body of Christ the Church on Earth, the assembly of the baptized.

Make the sign of the cross over your very body, your life.

MARCH 28, 2021

There is so much to reflect upon today as we hear the account of Jesus’ passion and death.

Our gospel passage includes so much that it can become overwhelming. Perhaps we can reflect upon what set things in motion — Judas’ betrayal.

Judas took something that was supposed to be a sign of intimacy — a kiss — and made this the signal for turning over Jesus to the authorities. Imagine how Jesus must have felt. Judas was a trusted companion, part of the inner circle of His beloved friends. He and Jesus had just shared a meal together. Now Judas hands Him over to be killed.

Our reading of the Passion can make us ask, “How could Judas do that? I would never do such a thing!”

But is this so?

We experience a great intimacy with the Lord at the altar, receiving His body and blood in the Eucharist. We freely share the sign (that is, the Kiss of Peace) with others. And yet, we sin.

Thinking that Judas, or the Roman authorities, or the Jewish leaders are the only ones that played a role in Jesus’ death keeps each of us conveniently removed from the situation. The fact is that we all contributed to the situation on Good Friday.

Reflecting upon the ways that we have betrayed Jesus isn’t done to beat up ourselves. Rather, acknowledging our own role in the suffering of Christ helps us to rejoice all the more on Easter Sunday.

Now we cross the threshold and enter the life-giving days of Holy Week, we do this not separated as individuals but as a parish and faith community together. Of the three great days — the Triduum of Holy Thursday, Good Friday and the Easter Vigil on Saturday evening — Holy Thursday has a special solemnity and evening peacefulness about it that makes it so spiritually rewarding.

The Mass of Thursday night — though it will be celebrated much more simply this week — recalls the origins of the Eucharist and inspires us to serve and care gently for others as Jesus did when he washed the feet of the Twelve.

MARCH 21, 2021

In the rhythm of family life, there is periodic need for the renewal of Lent.

We can get so caught up in “business-as-usual” that we fail to notice how we may have grown away from one another, away from the Christian community and consequently away from God. Lent is a time to reverse that separation.

Lent is a time of retreat in the real sense of that term: a time of turning back, of turning away from that which is dangerous to our spiritual growth, a time of returning to the Lord.

Lent is a time for the entire family to make a wholehearted effort to be more attentive to one another and to the Lord. It is a time to re-treat ourselves to the good of God and in one another, to the new life that can be ours.

But fasting is more than doing without food. Our Lenten fast can mean doing without other things as well. For example:

Do without a little sleep: use the time to read or pray.

Do without anger, impatience or whatever really hinders you from living the gospel message of love.

Do without the radio or music for a time each day; re-treat yourself and those around you to the joy of a little silence.

Limit TV to one hour a day.

Take fewer drugs (from aspirin to alcohol).

If you are a night owl, let go of the day’s activities and go to bed an hour earlier each night. (If you can’t sleep, use the time for meditation.)

Take some time from something you usually do for yourself, such as reading a good novel, to write to a neglected family member or friend.

Many of these actions mean fasting from selfishness and the status-seeking of our own egos, and allowing ourselves to be a bit more vulnerable. They might be more difficult than eating less food, but they are forms of fasting nonetheless and can re-treat us to the Christian values of love and joy.

And the otherwise …

God was talking to one of his angels. He said, “Boy, I just figured out how to rotate Earth so it creates his really incredible 24-hour period of light and darkness.”

The angel said. “What are you going to do now?”

God said, “Call it a day.”

MARCH 14, 2021

Lent calls us to pray, to give alms and to fast. This 40-day period of fasting also can be looked upon as a time to feast. We are called to FAST from certain things and FEAST on other things. It is a season during which we try to:

FAST from judging others. FEAST on Christ dwelling within them.

FAST from emphasis on differences. FEAST on the unity of all life.

FAST from thoughts of illness.FEAST on the healing power of God.

FAST from anger. FEAST on patience.

FAST from complaining. FEAST on appreciation.

FAST from unrelenting pressures. FEAST on unceasing prayer.

FAST from self-concern. FEAST on the compassion of others.

FAST from facts that depress. FEAST on truth that uplifts

FAST from thoughts that weaken. FEAST on promises that inspire.

FAST from worry. FEAST on divine order.

FAST from bitterness.FEAST on forgiveness.

FAST from idle gossip. FEAST on purposeful silence

FAST from lethargy. FEAST on enthusiasm.

MARCH 7, 2021

What’s your attitude toward forgiveness?

One deeply spiritual person has said, “The only thing we can play on the one string we have is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it.”

Hate and revenge preoccupied a man named Harold Smith when a one-time friend spread rumors about him and damaged his reputation, Harold said, “I begged God to do something to the one who had ruined me, to make the person as miserable as I had become.”

At first, he dismissed another friend’s suggestion that he pray for the other person who hurt his good name. But since he believed in the love of God and the power of forgiveness, he decided to give prayer a try without expecting much in return. Within a few weeks Harold found he could let go of his grudge.

“I wish I could say my act of forgiveness went over well with that person, but it didn’t,” he said. “But forgiveness did some amazing things to me!”

Here’s what he gained: more time and energy now that he no longer wasted time on revenge; a new way of seeing the person he hated, someone really in need of prayers; and the ability to change his anger and hatred into compassion.

And the otherwise

An elderly lady was well known for her faith and for her boldness and talking about it. She would stand on her front porch and shout, “Praise the Lord!”

Next door to her lived an atheist who would get so angry at her proclamations he would shout, “There ain’t no Lord!!”

Hard times set in on the elderly lady and she prayed for God to send her some assistance. She stood on her porch and shouted, “Praise the Lord! God, I need FOOD!! I am having a hard time. Please, Lord, send me some groceries!”

The next morning, the lady went out on her porch and saw a large bag of groceries and shouted, “Praise the Lord!”

The neighbor jumped from behind a bush and said, “Ha ha! I told you there was no Lord. I bought those groceries. God didn’t.”

The lady started jumping up and down and clapping her hands and saying, “Praise the Lord! He not only sent me groceries, but He made the devil pay for them!!”

FEB. 28, 2021

Lent began almost two millennia ago as a preparation for Easter.

Christians believed that they shared in Christ’s Resurrection through baptism, and so they chose the Vigil of Easter to baptize their new converts.

We know that God’s life, too, essentially is relational — the intimate relationship of Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

Baptism introduces us into the divine community by giving us a new, incredibly intimate relationship to the Son of God.

How close?

Listen to the words of Christ: “Whatever you do to the least of my brothers and sisters, you do to me.”

FEB. 21, 2021

A shopkeeper, seeing a boy hanging around near an outside and tempting display of fresh fruit, said, “What are you trying to do, kid, steal my apples?”

“No, sir” the boy said. “Really, I’m trying not to!”

Doing the right thing always involves some effort and determination.

What right thing will you be doing to make Lent this year truly rewarding, worthwhile and a blessing for you? To settle for being marked with blessed ashes, fish sandwiches on Fridays and regular Mass on the weekends of Lent is the bare minimum.

Are you determined to make Lent this time around become an important time for your own spiritually healthy life?

What effort will you make? To pray alone and with others, especially to celebrate the Mass; to give something of yourself for the sake of others, the church or the world; to foster a mellow and compassionate heart and to learn something new and gain deeper insights into the gift of faith — these should all be present, at least a bit, for a healthy and renewed life in God’s Spirit.

This is what Lent should be about. This is what will make Easter a joyous time!

And the otherwise …

Contrary to popular belief, it wasn’t the apple on the tree that got us banished from Paradise. It was the pair on the ground.

FEB. 14, 2021

A much-loved preacher of God’s Word for more than 50 years was asked once what inspired him to the key insights into the ways of God.

The preacher responded that two precious images always are in his mind and heart as he tried to help others with his preaching and teaching over the years. These images would help anyone who had lost hope or thought all was lost — or anyone who thought that God was not aware of their personal situation or life.

First, if all you see is gloom and dark clouds, an impossible situation or despair, think of this. Often when taking off on an airliner you see clouds, rain and gloom — then once in the air and elevated high above in the blue sky and crystal air you realize the sun was shining up there all the while.

God reminds us the sun is there; we just need to be lifted a bit to see it.

The second image is to see the whole world through the eye of an astronaut. If the entire Earth can be held within the eye, even just one eye, of the astronaut, then certainly each of our little lives can be held within the eye and mind and heart of the God who loves us.

And the otherwise …

International signs from around the world, in countries where English is not the national language:

In a city restaurant: “Open seven days a week and weekends.”

In a maternity ward: “No children allowed.”

In a cemetery: “Persons are prohibited from picking flowers from any but their own graves.”

Outside a Hong Kong tailor shop: “Ladies may have a fit upstairs.”

FEB. 7, 2021

Once, a man who hated his daily cross cried to God, “Why is my cross so heavy, why ignore my prayers?”

God said, “Come to the place where crosses are made and look for another.”

The man entered the very dark and cluttered room. Some crosses looked too large or heavy, others like toys, some unbearable to even think about.

Finally, the man picked up one cross and thought it was just right for him to carry, it was fit for him — or so he thought — perfect for his soul, his body, his mind.

God said, “Are you sure of it? Never ask me again to find another one for you.”

The man walked out into the light and realized it was the very same cross he had laid at the door when he had entered.

And the otherwise …

Father Smith decided to walk. He bundled up, pulling his overcoat up around his neck.

As he rounded the corner, a figure stepped out from a building, gun in hand.

“Give me your money. And hurry up.”

Father opened his overcoat to reach for his billfold in an inside pocket. With that the robber exclaimed as he caught sight of the Roman collar: “Oh, excuse me, Father. I didn’t know you were a Catholic priest.”

Relieved and grateful, the priest replied, “Here, have a cigar.”

Waving his hand, the robber blurted: “No thanks, Father. I gave up smoking for Lent.”

JAN. 31, 2021

Gambling is popular — and brings a lot of stories with it.

A tourist in Las Vegas didn’t have any money left, so he just watched the games and only bet mentally. In no time at all he LOST HIS MIND.

How about the very devout Catholic woman who always went to church and begged God to let her win the big lottery jackpot. But the next day she heard nothing from God.

“Why don’t you give me a break, Lord?” she asked.

A voice came from above and was heard to say, “Why don’t you at least buy a ticket!”

Poker on TV seems to be playing at every hour on the screen. The popular game “Texas Hold-Em” occupies the hours of probably too many people, especially college students who should be studying.

In “Texas Hold-Em,” you have the option to “go all in” — the moment when you bet everything, the final chance. If you win, you win it all; if you lose, it’s all over for you.

Jesus tells us, “Whoever wishes to save his life will lose it for the sake of the Kingdom of God.”

In other words, the Lord invites us to “go all in” and not hold back. Living our faith is really a high-stakes game when you consider what there is to win and what there is to lose. All eternity is riding on our desire and willingness to bet our life on Christ, faith, the church and our ability to reflect the goodness of Jesus in our thoughts, words and deeds.

And the otherwise …

A little girl sat on her grandfather’s lap as he read her a bedtime story. From time to time, she would reach up and touch his wrinkled cheek. Then she would touch her own cheek thoughtfully. Finally, she spoke.

“Grandpa, did God make you?”

“Yes, sweetheart,” he answered. “God made me a long time ago.”

“God make me, too?” she asked.

“Yes, indeed, honey,” he answered. “God made you just a little while ago.”

She touched his face again, and then her own, and then came to a conclusion.

“He’s getting better at it, isn’t He?”

JAN. 24, 2021

The first month of a new year always brings thoughts, hopes and even resolutions about how to be a better person, to enjoy a better year.

One suggestion might be to strive to make better use of the opportunities, gifts and days God gives us. Our choices can make a big difference not only for ourselves, but for the world around us.

Back in 2004, two people won large lottery prizes — but each used their opportunity in different ways.

Christianity is not a system of human philosophy, nor a religious ritual, nor a code of ethics; but it is a life imparted to us through Christ.

Jesus Christ is the way, the life and the truth. It is only in Christ, we can know the way of our going, the joy of our life, and the understanding of our living.

And the otherwise …

Right in the middle of his sermon, Father Brown saw that Tony got up and left. He returned to church before the closing hymn. Afterward, Father Brown asked, “Where did you go, Tony?”

“I went to get a haircut” was his reply.

“Buy why didn’t you do that before the Mass?” asked Father Brown.

“Because I didn’t need one then.”

JAN. 17, 2020

Especially these days, everyone is fascinated with how much good or evil just one person is capable of accomplishing.

There are examples of this in the news so often. For instance, one man, extremely wealthy through his own work and energy, will donate to worthy causes millions, even billions of dollars to accomplish many wonderful things for many people. While at the same time, almost on the same day, a news article will report tremendous loss of life and hurt and mindless violence, accomplished by just one person in some terrorist act or horrific crime.

The possibility of the world benefiting from one person’s good intentions or suffering from one person’s evil is mind shattering.

Jesus sends the Twelve out on their mission of evangelization. Each of us is invited to go out on our own unique mission, to be Christ’s presence in our world today.

The Rev. Greg Schaffer once walked more than 3,000 miles, all the way to Guatemala, to preach the Gospel.

“I must have been crazy,” he said describing the walk he made in 1972 to raise money for the poor Mayan Indians of the village of San Lucas Toliman in the mountains of Guatemala.

Father Greg set out on foot from his home in St. Paul, Minn., and three months later he reached the shores of Lake Atitlan in Guatemala. In the four decades of his work, the center he began has grown to include a million-dollar coffee and forestry cooperative that hosts more than 200 volunteers each year.

JAN. 10, 2021

Here are seven guidelines for sane living:

Strike a balance between work and play — between seriousness and laughter. Go to church regularly and also to the ballgame.
Stick with the truth, even if it makes you look or feel bad. Falsehoods are like wandering ghosts.
Forgive your enemies as part of the price you pay for the privilege of being forgiven. Realize you are sometimes a pain in the neck yourself.
Walk. Get lots of air and sunshine, and occasionally get some rain or snow in your face and some dirt on your hands.
Talk through your troubles and mistakes with someone you trust — and your dreams, too.
Don’t underestimate the ability of God to straighten out a situation even when you can’t, and give God a little time.
Fall in love with life — children, older people, middle-agers, sports cars, the theater, music, books, hills, the sea, the Bible — with everything except money.

And the otherwise …

After Mass, the priest looked blue and despondent.

“What was your sermon subject that it took so much energy out of you?” his friend asked.

He replied, “I tried to tell them that it was the duty of the rich to help the poor.”

And did you convince them?”

“Only half; I convinced the poor!”

JAN. 3, 2021

I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day.

I so much to accomplish that I didn’t take time to pray.

Problems just tumbled about me, and heavier came each task.

“Why doesn’t God help me,” I wondered.

He answered, “You didn’t ask.”

I wanted to see joy and beauty, but the day toiled on, gray and bleak.

I wondered why God didn’t show me.

He said, “But you didn’t seek.”

I tried to come into God’s presence; I used all my keys at the lock.

God gently and lovingly chided “My child, you didn’t knock.”

I woke up early this morning and paused before entering the day.

I had so much to accomplish that I had to take time to pray.

And the otherwise …

A pastor called at the home of a member when he learned he was seriously ill in the hospital. “Oh, he’s improving,” said the wife, “but he’s still in the ‘expensie-care’ ward.”

DEC. 27, 2020

A little 5-year-old boy at the dinner table burped out loud. His dad scowled at him and asked, “Now, what do grownups say when they do that, young man.?”

The boy then responded, “They say, ‘HAPPY NEW YEAR!’”

Yes, the new year is almost here with all the possibilities and pitfalls that every other time holds for us. May blessings and a deeper faith and a bit of good cheer and abiding peace of mind be yours this coming year as we leave the tumultuous 2020.

Winter also is holding us in its grip for the next few months. This season is not as obvious as the others — spring bursts in with budding beauty, summer’s long bright days warm us, and autumn enfolds us with color and a bountiful harvest.

But winter is relentless and gray and has a sameness to it — a time to conserve energy and focus on things and people that sustain life.

Winter and this new year will bring their own special wisdom and remind us of the words of St. Pope John Paul who said, “Each stage of life, like each season, has its own beauty and its own tasks.”

Rather than hope just for good luck in this new year, it might be better to pray that each of us can sort out and come to know the tasks that God calls us to accomplish.

DEC. 20, 2020

We’ve heard over the years the admonition “Keep Christ in Christmas,” but this Advent toward Christmas we also know there’s a “crisis” in Christmas.

This year of 2020 is different — a challenge — and the church and the faithful aren’t escaping the mood.

COVID-19 brings a crisis to ordinary living, holidays and holy days alike. But it does nothing to diminish or set aside any of the pledge and promise, the fact that God is with us — Emmanuel.

The “Word became Flesh” and was born among us, once in Bethlehem, and now the Savior is rebirthed and born among us and within us many times over. Even though we have had a shortage and scarcity of things such as sanitizers, hospital beds, jobs, money and yes, toilet paper, the coming Christmas for the faithful will not run short of grace and blessings.

The churches are not so filled, homes are decorated but not with the usual gang of family and friends, but still the fact of Emmanuel isn’t touched at all.

While waiting out the days of isolation, dealing with my positive test — luckily with no big symptoms — the significance of waiting once again catches my attention. Like waiting for coffee water to boil, a kid waiting to get back into school, for the phone to ring — waiting for this year’s Christmas will be like waiting to see what surprises happen when a snowstorm day is called and school is canceled. We come alive!

Let’s keep in mind the message for any Christmastime, any year, that Christ is the reason for the season — not what a TV commercial recently said: “Christmas is the season and shopping is the reason.”

Blessed Christmas to you.

Christmas gifts

“Mama,” declared little Billy excitedly, “I have to write another letter to Santa Claus.”

Laboriously he wrote it, but before she put it in an envelope Mama read it: “Dear Santa Claws: Tear up that letter I sent you last week. I am sending a new order ’cuz this afternoon I found all the gifts I asked for under the bed in the spare room upstairs.”

DEC. 13, 2020

Although Advent at first seems to be several weeks to patiently wait for the joy of Christmas, really on a deeper level and by ancient tradition and teaching of the church, Advent is more than that.

Advent really challenges us to know that time is shorter than we think and today is the day to draw closer to the light of faith and our friendship with Jesus.

There’s an old story that helps make this point.

One demon jumped up and said: “I’ll go back to Earth and convince the people that there is no heaven.”

“That won’t do,” said Satan. “We’ve tried it before and it doesn’t work.”

“I’ll convince them that there is no Hell,” offered a second demon.

“No, that doesn’t work either,” said Satan.

A wise, old veteran in the back of the room said, “If you let me go back to Earth, I can fill this place. I’ll just convince them that there is no hurry.”

DEC. 6, 2020

While visiting the home of a member of his parish for dinner, the young priest placed some nice green beans on his plate.

Closely watching everything, as little kids do, the small daughter suddenly jumped up from the table and exclaimed for all to hear, “Look, Daddy, he took some beans! You said he didn’t know beans!”

We all do or say things that we might later regret. Dealing with disagreements between people calls for resolve, reconciliation and respect.

Conflict is a normal, inevitable and even healthy aspect of most relationships. When managed well, it can be used to enhance and strengthen relationships with friends, family and co-workers.

Fair fighting provides the tools and techniques to help you achieve positive results when those problems do arise. Here are some tips:

Think through what you want to resolve. Don’t bring up old unrelated wounds.
Do not generalize. Avoid using words such as “you always” or “you never.” It usually isn’t true.
Take time to cool off when needed.
Those who get flustered easily would do well to write down thoughts and give them to the other person. There’s less of a chance to fly off the handle when face to face.

St. Paul, writing to early followers of the Good Lord, said, “We rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ through whom we have now received our reconciliation.”

NOV. 29, 2020

Today, dear Lord, I’m 80 and there’s so much I haven’t done.

I hope, dear Lord, you’ll let me live until I’m 81. But then, if I haven’t finished all I want to do, would you let me stay until I’m 82?

So many places I want to go, so very much to see. Do you think could manage to make it 83?

The world is changing very fast, there is so much in store. I’d like it very much to live until I’m 84.

And if by then I’m you still alive, I’d like to stay til 85.

More planes will be up in the air, and there are some things I’d like to fix. I’d really like to stick around and see what happens to the world when I’m 86.

I know dear Lord, it’s much to ask (and it must be nice in Heaven), but I would really like to stay until I’m 87.

I know by then I won’t be fast and sometimes will be late, but it would be so pleasant to be around at 88.

I will have seen so many things and had a wonderful time. So, I’m sure that I’ll be willing to leave at 89 — maybe.

I’m 90 Lord, my mind is sound, I like it here. I can still walk around. My time is limited I know, and someday I’ll have to go.

I’m not greedy or guided by fears; I want to see what happens in the next few years. I’m sure you’ve heard this plea before, but my bags will be packed when I’m 104!

And the otherwise …

Pastor: “Our youth group opened a new flea market.”

Member: “How did they start?”

Pastor: “They started from scratch”

NOV. 22, 2020

God of all seasons, we thank you for autumn.

We thank you for:

The touch of coolness in the air that gives us a new burst of energy.
The coloring of trees that shows the creativity of the Divine Artist.
The falling leaves that reveal the strength of the branches.
The hues of fields that bring peace to our souls.
The smiles on pumpkins that bring joy to children,
The fall harvest that brings us gratitude for the bounty of our land.
This change of seasons that reveals the circle of life.

God of all seasons, as you transform the Earth, transform us by your Spirit.

Amen.

NOV. 15, 2020

A young man once said that when he was a child and after his grandmother died, he used to “talk” to her in a prayerful and childish way.

As he got older, he worried sometimes his behavior might bring sadness to departed souls.

Our church teaches about a communion of saints — a network of those struggling as they journey toward God’s presence (Purgatory).

We see wrapped up together in a wondrous community, “citizens with the saints and members of the household cornerstone.” (Ephesians 2:19-20).

Those who have passed away are aware of us — we pray for them and they help and guide our good dreams and intentions. They also lived on Earth and know that life is not a picnic; they sinned and so do we.

Don’t suppose God says to their souls, “Forget your loved ones and families down there on my green Earth.”

Those who are with Christ want to help us. If our prayers for each other here are valuable, how much more precious are their prayers for us from God’s heavenly heights.

Make them proud of you.

And the otherwise …

A mother was teaching her 3-year-old daughter the Lord’s Prayer. For several evenings at bedtime, she repeated it after her mother. One night she said she was ready to try it on her own. Mother glowed with pride and listened to each word right up to the end. “And lead us not into temptation,” she prayed, “but deliver us some email. Amen.”

NOV. 8, 2020

By THE REV. JOHN CATOIR

Holiness is not something that comes from doing good; we do good because we are holy.

Holiness is not something we acquire by avoiding evil; we avoid evil because we are holy.

Holiness is not something that follows from prayer; we pray because we are holy.

Holiness not the result of kindness; we are kind because we are holy.

Holiness is not something that blossoms when we are courageous; we are courageous because we are holy.

Holiness is not the result of character building; we build character because we are holy.

Holiness is not a gift we obtain after a lifetime of service; we give service because we are holy.

Our holiness is God-with-us: Emmanuel. And while it is true that holiness carries with it both the Cross and the Resurrection, it is more a gift than a reward.

NOV. 1, 2020

Steve Covey’s book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,” originally published in 1989, was on the bestseller list for a long time.

Corporate America snapped up the book and lined up to attend workshops given by the author.

What is he selling?

Simply put, it is a Gospel message. The message is that doing well and being effective means doing good, and that doing good means being good.

The author is preaching that principles and morals, values and accountability actually belong in the business world. For those of us who believe and are directed by God’s Spirit acting in our souls, not much about Steve Covey’s seven habits of effective people is really new at all or startling.

Here’s what they are in a nutshell:

1. Take initiative and be responsible.

2. Begin with the outcome you want in mind, maintain your values.

3. Put first things first; allow your values to discipline your feelings and impulses.

4. Think positive, keep a no-losers attitude.

5. Seek more to understand than to be understood. Focus on listening.

6. Enable more energy to be released from you than put into you.

7. Cultivate each day yourself, physically, mentally, socially and spiritually.

OCT. 18, 2020

A speaker held up a $20 bill and asked the audience, “Who would like this $20 bill.”

Hands went up immediately.

He said, “I’ll give this bill to one of you, but first let me do this.”

He crumpled up the bill and then held it up again. He asked again, “Who still wants this bill?”

Then hands went back up in the air.

“Well,” he replied “What if I do this?”

Then he dropped it on the floor and began to grind it with his shoe so not only was it crumpled, but very dirty as well.

“Now, who still wants it?”

The hands went back in the air.

He paused and said, “My friends, you have learned a valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives we are dropped, crumpled and ground into the dirt by circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or will happen, you will never lose your value in the eyes of those who love you. You are special, and never forget it.

And the otherwise …

A young couple invited their elderly pastor for Sunday dinner. While they were in ‘the kitchen preparing the meal, their young son was in the living room entertaining the pastor.

“What are we having for dinner?” the pastor asked.

“Goat” replied the boy.

“Goat?” asked the startled pastor. “Are you sure about that?”

“Yep,” said the youngster. “I heard Dad tell Mom, “Might as well have the old goat for dinner today as any other day.”

OCT. 11, 2020

The following was written by Joyce Rupp:

God of the seasons, there is a time for everything: there is a time for dying and a time for rising. We need courage to enter into the transformation process.

God of fallen leaves lying in colored patterns on the ground, our lives have their own patterns. As we see the patterns of our growth, may we learn from them.

God of misty days and harvest moon nights, there is always the dimension of mystery and wonder in our lives. We always need to recognize your power-filled presence. May we gain strength from this.

God of geese going south for another season, your wisdom enables us to know what needs to be left behind and what needs to be carried into the future. We yearn for insight and vision.

God of flowers touched with frost and windows wearing white designs, may your love keep our hearts from growing cold in the empty seasons.

God of life you believe in us, you enrich us, you entrust us with the freedom to choose life. For all of this we are grateful. Amen.

OCT. 4, 2020

A sign was seen on the desk of a very successful store owner and popular figure in the city where the man lived.

The sign read: “Do all you can in the time you have and in the place where you are.”

What a recipe for success. It’s a great motto to live by and motivate oneself for doing good things and accomplishing much — whether it’s caring for and providing for a family, making a mark in your community or expressing your love for God by guarding and promoting the life of your church and Faith.

The word “stewardship” sums up the care, support and guardianship of our church and faith.

There was a merchant who had a fleet of ships that crossed the seas and earned riches for the merchant. But one ship just never sailed at all; it only stayed in port and brought only disappointment to the owner.

Our life in the church is like having a fleet of ships. One is called “fellowship” — a closeness with the Lord through sacraments and prayer. Another is called “discipleship” — as we learn to walk in the steps of the Savior and understand the scriptures and enjoy the blessings of the Mass.

Then there is “friendship” that is found when folks gather for the celebration of the sacraments; and the social ship in our fleet sometimes never leaves the dock in port, that is “stewardship” — some just never embrace the caring for and support and guardianship for the church that should be part of that blessed fleet.

For those who do, the words on the man’s desk really must ring true: “Do all you can with what you have in the time you have and in the place you are.”

SEPT. 27, 2020

How is Jesus present in the Eucharist?

Most of us, at one time or another, find ourselves either asking that question or trying to explain the mystery for someone else.

Catholics believe that the body and blood of Jesus are present in consecrated bread and wine. We do not say the Eucharist is like the body and blood of Jesus, but that it IS the body and blood of Jesus.

It’s the same way in the Eucharistic celebration. We have a body-and-blood relationship with God in Christ. In this encounter, we no longer get stuck on the elements of bread and wine, body and blood. This is because we experience persons instead of things, relationships instead of magic.

Real reverence has to be for the person of Christ and for all people for whom he died — the two are inseparable. That is why people are called the Body of Christ.

SEPT. 20, 2020

If one lives to be 70 years of age and is the average person, he or she spends:

20 years sleeping.
20 years working.
6 years eating.
7 years playing.
5 years dressing.
1 year on the telephone.
2.5 years smoking
2.5 years in bed.
3 years waiting for somebody.
5 months tying shoes.
2.5 years for other things.
Do “other things” in your life include time for participation in serving on a church program?

While our daily lives may have a certain sameness, Christians affirm that every moment is creative by how we experience and respond to this new moment.

Within every moment of this day, God is about His creative activity and is presenting us with occasions for discipleship.

Time is one of the most important gifts given us by God. He has given it equally to all. It is our responsibility to use it wisely and well. And we can do so by dedicating some part of it to some apostolic activity, organized within the framework of our own church.

What should be made clear is that stewardship is an attitude. It’s not so much what we do, as it is why we are doing something.

Stewardship is a continuous revelation that God has given us special talents. By these gifts of talents, we can reveal God to the world.

SEPT. 13, 2020

Jesus came to revolutionize the world. While other leaders revolutionize by violence — love and service was Jesus’ way.

While other kingdoms rose and fell, Jesus’ Kingdom prevails throughout all time and throughout the whole world.

Therefore, if we want to put meaning into our lives we need to adhere unconditionally with the one who endures all over the world and throughout all times.

Jesus went about announcing the Good News. He was not interested in human power. His cause was more radical than that. In each person, He was a great potential for sanctity. He never used people like other rulers. He came to serve and not be served. He is the most meek and humble, and yet He conquered the world as nobody ever did or ever will.

The power of Jesus’ love is born in His willingness not to retaliate or seek revenge. His power is best seen and observed while He was crucified. He forgave His enemies, and even welcomed into His kingdom that same day one of the thieves crucified with Him.

SEPT. 6, 2020

We’ve been around for more than 2,000 years. And we’ve been misunderstood for just about that long as well.

Today, Catholics often are the butt of jokes by comedians, and often scorned by others. Find out about some of these misconceptions — and learn the truth about the Catholic faith:

The Catholic Church is not biblical: The Catholic Church is deeply biblical. Jesus’ followers gathered the sacred writings and established the fundamental books of the Bible in the first centuries of the Church. All Catholic worship is based on a careful reading and presentation of the Bible.

The Catholic Church is authoritarian: Catholic life is not run by the pope; rather, Catholic life unfolds in local parish congregations. The pope and bishops give guidance on certain fundamental issues of faith and good living, but all pastors do that. The church believes fundamentally in the freedom of the human conscience.

Catholics are superstitious and worship idols: Catholics worship only God. We pray to saints as our older brothers and sisters in faith who are united with us in Christ. Sacred images inspire us and focus our thoughts and prayer.

Catholics are hung up on sex: Catholics do take sex very seriously because they see it as a beautiful and important gift from God. Catholics encourage personal discipline in the exercise of sexual activity.

AUG. 30, 2020

Young people often are a source of delight and surprising thoughts.

A teacher asked her Religion class to write a little note to God:

“Dear God, I didn’t think the colors purple and orange went good together until I saw the sunset you made last night … real cool!”
“Dear God, Who draws the lines around the countries?”
“Dear God, maybe Cain and Abel wouldn’t have killed each other if they had their own rooms; that’s what my mom did for me and my brother.”
“Dear God, it must be tough on you to love everybody; there’s only four in my family and I’m having a tough time.”

There also are more mature and deeply moving insights given by some of our young people. A recent high school graduate, Megan Zerrahn who faced a serious illness, shared an inspiring thought with us. She said: “I didn’t want anybody’s sympathy; feeling bad for me wasn’t going to get me anywhere. My friends, the girls at the studio and my family all obeyed this rule. We acted just as we would if I wasn’t sick. They helped me to be positive and to keep a smile on my face.”

Keeping a positive attitude in a very competitive and fast-moving celebrity-driven culture can be rough on high school and early college-age people. Even with the best of health it helps to have faith, courage and high standards for which to strive.

AUG. 23, 2020

Faith can be good medicine.

Studies say practicing your faith can play a part in how long a person lives or fights disease.

Dr. Harold Koenig talked about faith, healing and long life at the Spiritual Care Center at Crouse Hospital in Syracuse. He said the link between faith and physical and mental well-being has been found in more than 1,200 scientific studies.

“We don’t have this much evidence on aspirin and headaches,” Koenig said.

Study after study shows those who lead a life of faith that is practiced regularly tend to live longer; when they do get sick, they get well faster and have shorter hospital stays.

This doesn’t mean that bad things don’t happen to religious people — they are not immune to what life puts on their plate; however, the proven fact that they can live seven to 14 years longer than non-religious persons is important.

“The way we think and feel and believe affects our physical health dramatically,” Koenig said. “Faith can help us to cope and deal with so much and to be peaceful … to forgive and not hold a grudge.”

All this reminds us of the close union of body, mind and soul.

AUG. 16, 2020

Sometimes, we underestimate the gift and treasure that parish community is.

The next time you shy from saying hello or enjoy the presence of fellow parishioners, think of this: Coval Russ spent a year and two months in the Butte County Jail for assaulting his landlord, his first and only run-in with the law in all his 92 years.

In jail he was called “Pops” and given first dibs on the TV and first in the food line. At an advanced age and stooped over, blind in one eye and with prostate cancer, he finally found some community after years of loneliness. He had found community among prisoners.

Before being jailed, Corval had lived in a town called Paradise about 100 miles from Reno, Nevada, but he told everyone his paradise was the fellowship of the Butte County jail life.

He was released after serving his time, although he begged the judge to keep him in the lockup. A few days later his body was found in the Feather River, beneath a bridge where a taxi cab had dropped him off, near the motel where he had stayed after his release from the jail that had become his home — his community.

AUG. 9, 2020

Being a Christian means more than just being a “nice” person. Anyone can do this by simply smiling and saying “please” and “thank you.”

Being a Christian also means more than following the Ten Commandments. Jewish people follow the Ten Commandments and they aren’t Christians.

So, what is unique about being a Christian?

Fundamentally, it means believing in and following Jesus. But even this is too generic.

I think the last couple of lines of the Beatitudes get to the heart of the matter. We hear Jesus speaking about being blessed if we are persecuted for the sake of righteousness. He goes on to say that we are blessed if we are insulted and persecuted because of Him. This is uniquely Christian.

No one wants to be persecuted, but Jesus is warning us that it’s part of following Him. Many Christians in our society today don’t want to offend anyone. How else can we explain a predominantly Christian society that allows abortion on demand?

AUG. 2, 2020

What medical science says: According to an article in the Harvard Mental Health Letter, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity and build strong relationships.

What the Bible says: The Bible encourages us to cultivate a spirit of gratitude. “Show yourselves thankful,” wrote the apostle Paul, who set a fine example himself. For instance, he “thanked God unceasingly” for the positive response of others toward the message he shared with them. Lasting happiness comes not from merely saying thank you occasionally, but from having a grateful disposition. That, in turn, protects us from feelings of entitlement, envy and resentment, which would alienate people from us and rob us of joy in life.

When we express sincere gratitude — whether for a gift, a kind word or practical help — we make the giver feel valued and appreciated. Even strangers respond warmly to people who sincerely thank them for doing a kind deed, such as holding a door open.

What the Bible says: “Practice giving,” said Jesus Christ, “and people will give to you. They will pour into your laps a fine measure, pressed down, shaken together and overflowing.” (Luke 6:38)

JULY 26, 2020

Holiness is not something that comes from doing good; we do good because we are holy.

Holiness is not something we acquire by avoiding evil; we avoid evil because we are holy.

Holiness is not something that follows from prayer; we pray because we are holy.

Holiness is not the result of kindness; we are kind because we are holy.

Holiness is not something that blossoms when we are courageous; we are courageous because we are holy.

Holiness is not the result of character building; we build character because we are holy.

Holiness is not a gift we obtain after a lifetime of service; we give service because we are holy.

Our holiness is God with us, Emmanuel. And while it is true that holiness carries with it the cross and resurrection, it is more a gift than a reward.

The Secret of Happiness

If you want to be happy for an hour, take a nap.

If you want to be happy for a day, go fishing.

If you want to be happy for a week, take a trip.

If you want to be happy for a year, inherit money.

If you want to be happy for a lifetime, serve others.

JULY 19, 2020

English word origins come from a great variety of sources. Many languages add to its richness.

But some words actually derive from the names of individuals. Among these eponyms, one of the best known is sandwich. It is named for the fourth Earl of Sandwich, who supposedly invented this handheld meal so he would not have to leave the gambling table.

If you think something is a doozy it is because of Frederick Duesenberg. The auto maker’s 1932 roadster had a powerful 320 horsepower engine and could go and impressive 130 mph.

Next time you read a book blurb think of Belinda Blurb. She modeled for the cover of a 1906 book of humor by Gelett Burgess. Somehow her name stuck to the words on the jacket.

Try to make your name synonymous with integrity and kindness. Then the good you do will last even longer than any name or fame.

Chicken soup for the grandparent’s soul

The most rewarding thing about being a grandparent is watching your children become loving parents. It is our assurance that we did something right after all.

JULY 12, 2020

The result of a computerized study indicates the perfect priest preaches exactly 15 minutes. He condemns sin but never upsets anyone. He works from 8 a.m. until midnight and also is a janitor.

He makes $70 per week, wears good clothes, buys good books, drives a good car and gives $70 a week to the poor.

He is 28 years old and has been preaching for 30 years. He has a burning desire to work with teenagers and spends all his time with senior citizens.

The perfect priest smiles all the time with a straight face because he has a sense of humor that keeps him seriously dedicated to his work. He makes 15 calls daily on parish families, shut-ins and the hospitalized; visits the school every day; spends all his time evangelizing the unchurched; and always is in his office when needed.

If your priest does not measure up, simply send this letter to six other parishes that are tired of their priest, too. Then bundle up your priest and send him to the church at the top of your list. In one week you will receive 1,643 priests, and one of them should be perfect.

Have faith in this matter — one church broke the chain and got its old priest back in less than three months.

And the otherwise …

The pastor of a Catholic Church was ill one Sunday morning, so a preacher was called in to speak. In his opening remarks the preacher said, “You know, a substitute preacher is like a broken window. He fills the space, but after all, he’s not the real glass.”

After the service, a lady approached the preacher trying to pay him a compliment.

“You weren’t a replacement after all. You were a real pane.”

JULY 5, 2020

Usually we think of homecoming having to do with a special weekend at college when parents visit and the school has a homecoming game and events.

Or maybe a member of the family who has been deployed in some faraway place with the military finally comes home into the welcoming arms of loved ones.

In our case, that of our beautiful St. Mary of Mount Carmel / Blessed Sacrament Parish, our “homecoming” to the splendid church and regular Mass schedule is this weekend.

We have been very cautious and deliberate in making sure things are safe and sanitized and ready to follow the rules and regulations of our Diocese of Syracuse and New York state. Of course, our bishop reminds us that the obligation of attending Mass still is “lifted,” so that if those who are vulnerable, maybe ill or elderly, do not have to feel compelled to come to Mass. There are several Catholic Masses are on television.

Many, however, are looking forward to again being in their own spiritual home and beautiful church that honors the Blessed Mother as Our Lady of Mount Carmel. There are so many memories and life experiences here.

The entire parish family is so grateful for those who have, with some sacrifice, continued to send in their envelopes and financial support of the church. We hope to do live-streaming of the weekend Mass soon for those who stay at home. We’ll let you know when that happens on our parish website (www.mountcarmelblessedsacrament.com) and via email to those who have signed up. (See this page on how to sign up for emails.)

We know that when gathered together in God’s House, even every other pew and spaced apart, we truly are a wonderful sight, the “living stones that make up the Body of Christ, the edifice, which is the church,” from St. Peters epistle.

Welcome home!

JUNE 28, 2020

By the Rev. Donald Rolheiser

We’re called to live in the light, but we tend to have an overly romantic idea of what that should mean.

But that’s unreal. What does it mean to live in the light?

To live in the light means to live in honesty, pure and simple, to be transparent, to not have part of us hidden as a dark secret.

Spiritual health lies in honesty and transparency and so we live in the light when we are willing to lay every part of our lives open to examination by those who need to trust us.

To live in the light is to be able always to tell our loves ones where we are and what we are doing.

To live in the light is not have to worry if someone traces what websites we have visited.

To live in the light is to not be anxious if someone in the family finds our files unlocked.

To live in the light is to be able to let those we live with listen to what’s inside our cell-phones, see what’s inside our emails, and know who’s on our speed-dial.

To live in the light is to have a confessor and to be able to tell that person what we struggle with, without having to hide anything.

To live in the light is to live in such a way that, for those who know us, our lives are an open book.

JUNE 21, 2020

Our Bible contains 810,697 words. This is about four times as many as are found in a book of average length.

Although so long a book and dealing with the greatest theme that can engage the mind of man, its vocabulary is singularly limited. Only 6,000 different words are used, which is very small compared to the 20,000 employed by Shakespeare in writing his plays.

Not only is the vocabulary limited, but, the average word in the Bible contains but five letters. Many of these short words are, however, full of the deepest meaning and are worthy of earnest study — such as these short five-letter words grace, peace, faith, saved, serve, glory and Jesus.

Your Own Version
You are writing a Gospel,
a chapter each day
by deeds that you do,
by words that you say.
Men read what you write,
whether faithless or true;
say, what is the Gospel
According to YOU?

JUNE 14, 2020

Albert Einstein did not speak until he was 4 and could not read until age 7.

His teacher called him “mentally slow and adrift in foolish dreams.”

Rodin’s father described his son as an “idiot.” His uncle called the sculptor uneducable and Rodin failed three times to gain admittance to art school.

Beethoven’s teacher called him “hopeless” as a composer.

Winston Churchill, who became prime minister of England at 62, failed sixth grade. After a lifetime of defeats and setbacks, he began to achieve some success only as a senior citizen.

Rudyard Kipling’s work was rejected by the San Francisco Examiner newspaper with the comment, “You just don’t know how to use the English language.”

When George Gershwin’s “Porgy & Bess” was first performed, a reviewer called it “sure-fire rubbish.”

Dr. Seuss’ first children’s book was rejected by 27 publishers.

This list, of so-called “losers” who surprised their detractors with their stunning successes could go on and on. Suffice it to say, no human being can be cast aside or overlooked as valueless. God, who created each individual, also has endowed each of us with unique purpose and grace.

JUNE 7, 2020

Can you list the U.S. presidents who have served in your lifetime?

How about the five wealthiest people in the world?

Any chance you know the last five Heisman Trophy winners or Nobel Prize winners?

All of these famous worldly winners are soon forgotten.

Fame is fleeting — but love is forever.

None of us will ever forget those who personally touched our lives — our parents, teachers, mentors and special friends. Jesus was not about worldly fame. He was about love and was like a parent, teacher, mentor and special friend to all of his disciples. Jesus personally touched all of their lives.

This personal touch of the Lord in our lives reaches us in many and various ways — the word of scripture, embraces and closeness of friends and family. Sometimes even in the most surprising ways, unexpected.

Yes, fame is fleeting, but the influence of good friends and their ability to be channels of the Lord’s presence in our personal lives is amazing.

It was said that Henry Ford was asked for good advice by a young newspaper reporter. Ford responded, “Choose your best friends carefully, because a best friend is the one who should bring out the BEST in you!”

Let the Savior be that best friend for you.

MAY 31, 2020

Let’s face it — just getting through an ordinary day with ordinary irritations can put us in a “bad humor.”

Other circumstances — such as serious illness, the loss of someone dear, distressing change or bitter disappointment — cut much more deeply into our capacity for feeling joy.

Laughter is a refuge against life’s hurts and indignities. Granted, we cannot just laugh away all life’s problems. Laughter is not a way to avoid our problems or deny their seriousness. It can be a way to release our anxiety, however, and to balance our distress with healthful, positive feelings.

When a person loses his or her sense of humor, Bishop Fulton Sheen wrote in “Lift Up Your Heart,” he or she “ceases to see the point of the universe, which is that all things are revelations, symbols, reminders of God who made them. To take things seriously as ends in themselves is to overrate them, to treat them with a solemnity that is not warranted.”

When we feel as though we drowning in misery, our God throws us rope — our sense of humor. With our sense of humor in hand, we can get a better grip on life.

MAY 24, 2020

Symptoms of inner peace

Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace, the hearts of a great many have already been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions.

This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict in the world. Some signs to look for:

A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences
An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
A loss of interest in judging other people.
A loss of interest interpreting the actions of others.
A loss of ability to worry. (This is a serious symptom.)
Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature.
Frequent attacks of smiling.
An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen.
An increased susceptibility to the love offered by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it.

And the otherwise …

Many folks want to serve God, but only as advisers.

It is easier to preach 10 sermons than it is to live one.

The good Lord didn’t create anything without a purpose, but mosquitoes come close.

MAY 17, 2020

One Christian minister and pastor shocked the people gathered in the church when he pointed out that some who claim to be followers of Christ and called as Christians, really aren’t.

The pastor said many simply are “four-wheel” Christians, which means they visit church in a baby buggy to be christened, in a limo car to be married, and finally in a hearse to be buried.

May we suggest the ABC’s of genuine and tested Christian behavior. They are:

Act instead of argue.
Build instead of brag.
Climb instead of criticize.
Dig instead of depreciate.
Encourage instead of envy.
Fight instead of faint.
Give instead of grumble.
Help instead of hinder.
Improve instead of ignore.
Join instead of jeer.
Kneel instead of kick.
Love instead of lampoon.
Move instead of mold.
Nurture instead of neglect.
Obey instead of object.
Pray instead of pout.
Qualify instead of quit.
Rescue instead of ridicule.
Shout instead of shrink.
Try instead of tremble.

And the otherwise …

A father was approached by his small son who told him proudly, “I know what the Bible means!”

His father smiled and replied, “What do you mean, you ‘know’ what the Bible means?

The son replied, “I do know!”

“OK,” said his father. “What does the Bible mean?”

“That’s easy, Daddy,” the young boy replied excitedly. “It stands for Basic Information Before Leaving Earth.”

MAY 17, 2020

The Rev. Andrew Greeley, in his book “A Piece of My Mind,” had this to say about the Blessed Virgin Mary:

“A couple of years ago I went with a crowd of friends to see John R. Power’s play ‘Patent Leather Shoes,’ based on his novel about Catholicism of the 1950s. In one scene, the second-graders of “St. Christina’s School in Chicago are doing the annual May crowning. They begin to sing the traditional May crowing hymn, ‘Bring Flowers of the Rarest.’

“At the chorus, the whole audience joined in ‘O Mary we crown thee with blossoms today, Queen of the Angels, Queen of the May.’

“Some Jewish people sitting near me were humming (ethnic group loyalty in favor of a Jewish mother?) On the way out I cornered the gifted young playwright.

“‘Do they do it every night, John?’”

“‘Since the first night,’ he replied. “‘If they every stop doing it, we’ll be worried.’”

“At the chorus, the whole audience joined in ‘O Mary we crown thee with blossoms today, Queen of the Angels, Queen of the May.’

“Some Jewish people sitting near me were humming (ethnic group loyalty in favor of a Jewish mother?) On the way out I cornered the gifted young playwright.

“‘Do they do it every night, John?’”

“‘Since the first night,’ he replied. “‘If they every stop doing it, we’ll be worried.’”

MAY 10, 2020

The Rev. Andrew Greeley, in his book “A Piece of My Mind,” had this to say about the Blessed Virgin Mary:

“A couple of years ago I went with a crowd of friends to see John R. Power’s play ‘Patent Leather Shoes,’ based on his novel about Catholicism of the 1950s. In one scene, the second-graders of St. Christina’s School in Chicago are doing the annual May crowning. They begin to sing the traditional May crowing hymn, ‘Bring Flowers of the Rarest.’

“At the chorus, the whole audience joined in ‘O Mary we crown thee with blossoms today, Queen of the Angels, Queen of the May.’

“Some Jewish people sitting near me were humming (ethnic group loyalty in favor of a Jewish mother?) On the way out I cornered the gifted young playwright.

“‘Do they do it every night, John?’”

“‘Since the first night,’ he replied. “‘If they ever stop doing it, we’ll be worried.’”

MAY 3, 2020

During a time of crisis or uncertainty, we may find ourselves struggling with fear and anxiety. This is a natural reaction.

But St. Paul reminds us in his Letter to the Philippians to “have no anxiety about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”

Then, he assures us, “the peace of God, which passes all understanding, will keep your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

With steadfast prayer and thanksgiving, then, we do our best to put our trust in the Lord. Let our actions reflect the trust and peace that can only be found in him. Stay close to Jesus and the Blessed Mother in prayer, asking that those who are suffering from the disease or from any related anxiety may find healing and peace.

Prayer During An Epidemic

Lord Jesus, hear our pleas, our Good Shepherd and Divine Physician. We implore your mercy in the wake of an outbreak of serious illness and disease.

Guide our efforts to prevent contagion and make preparations to care for those most vulnerable. Assist all professionals and volunteers who work to eradicate the epidemic now spreading. May our actions be marked by your steadfast love and selfless service and never by panic or fear.

Bestow your comfort and healing to the sick, sustain and strengthen them by your grace. May they know your closeness as they carry the cross of illness.

And may all who have been called from this life come to worship you eternally with all the saints as you grant consolation and peace to their mourners. Amen.

Holy Mary, Health of the Sick, pray for us. St. Joseph, Hope of the Sick, pray for us. St. Rocco, protector against epidemics, pray for us.

MARCH 15, 2020

Once, a man who hated his daily cross cried to God, “Why is my cross so heavy, why ignore my prayers?”

God said: “Come to the place where crosses are made, and look for another.”

The man entered the very dark and cluttered room. Some crosses looked too large or heavy, others like toys — some unbearable to even think about.

Finally the man picked up one cross; he thought it was just right for him to carry. It was fit for him, so he thought, perfect for his soul, his body, his mind.

God said, “Are you sure of it? Never ask me again to find another one for you.”

The man walked out into the light and realized it was the very same cross he had laid at the door when he had entered.

And the otherwise …

Father Smith decided to walk. He bundled up, pulling his overcoat up around his neck. As he rounded the corner, a figure stepped out from a building, gun in hand.

“Give me your money and hurry up.”

Father opened his overcoat to reach for his billfold in an inside pocket. With that, the robber exclaimed as he caught sight of the Roman collar.

“Oh excuse me, Father, I didn’t know you were a Catholic priest.”

Relieved and grateful, the priest replied: “Here, have a cigar.”

Waving his hand, the robber blurted: “No thanks, Father, I gave up smoking during Lent.”

MARCH 8, 2020

Norman Cousins reacted the way any of us would have on hearing he had an incurable, crippling illness —shock, denial and anger.

But then, he broke from the rest of us. He decided he could not be a passive observer of his own health.

Cousins began to laugh. “Why not?” he thought. He was feeling pretty low and wanted to feel better. He knew laughter always made him feel physically, emotionally and psychologically better, so why not laugh now?

Couldn’t positive emotions, then cause positive chemical changes? Why not laugh and see if this was possible?

Of course, most of us could think of a lot of reasons why not, but Norman, a journalist, editor and world peace activist, looked at his situation differently. In his 1979 book “Anatomy of an Illness,” he describes how after his diagnosis of ankylosing spondylitis, a degenerative disease of the spine, he rented a movie projector, Marx Brothers movies and old episodes of “Candid Camera.”

He recognized almost immediately, after just 10 minutes of laughing, that his pain was better. He continued to laugh. He laughed, and laughed, and laughed himself into remission for nearly 30 years, finally succumbing to heart disease.

His physicians had one explanation for his remission. Could laughing have been possible?

MARCH 1, 2020

Each year on Ash Wednesday, Christians receive an outward sign on their foreheads to show that they wish to turn away from sin.

The gospel names some of the traditional Lenten practices undertaken by Christians in order to help them achieve their goal: almsgiving, prayer and fasting.

Most of us pick something to “do” or to “give up” during Lent, probably because this is how we were raised. Maybe in the past we haven’t made a conscious connection between our Lenten practices and how they help us to relate better to God and our neighbor.

Why not try something this year to make the connection clearer, such as fasting from a particular activity or food, and then making use of that time or money to promote something worthwhile. For example, watching less television in order to spend more time in prayer and talking to family members. Or taking the money that would have normally been spent on desserts and giving it to the poor or another cause.

Whatever we do, we should keep in mind Psalm 51, which tells us that a contrite heart is the best sacrifice we can make to God. This should be our ultimate goal, because unless our hearts change (or we are at least trying to change with God’s help), then our Lenten observances won’t mean much.

Do we really think the Lord is impressed that we can go without candy for 40 days if our hearts remain closed to Him and to others?

FEB. 16, 2020

Thoughts from Mother Teresa

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will forget tomorrow; do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God, it never was between you and them anyway.

FEB. 9, 2020

What is retirement for you?

Maybe it’s a long way off, or a challenging time that is here now and can last many years.

Whatever it is, retirement means change.

People can live longer now, well beyond the magic 65 or 70. Using that time to grow socially, spiritually, contribute to life and community or uncover new possibilities, it can bring such satisfaction and fulfillment.

The hope of good health, physically and mentally, is every family’s hope and prayer for loved ones.

Father Fahey, noted priest expert on gerontology and senior citizen issues, says that feelings of isolation and a lack of worth make newly retired persons concentrate on their losses due to retirement.

Instead, highlight the new chances and extra time afforded by retirement. A simple “Help Wanted” ad teaches many good points.:

“Help Wanted: Man or woman with years of experience living and willing to share with others. Position requirements: time, interest, enthusiasm, generosity, flexibility and wisdom. Needed to: tutor a young person, get involved with political issues and campaigns, work on a neighborhood watch, teach your skill to another volunteer at local library or hospital or church, or friendly visits to homebound persons.”

FEB. 2, 2020

Imagine there is a bank that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening it deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day.

What would you do?

Draw out every cent, of course!

Each of us has such a bank. Its name is time.

Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft.

Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours. There is no going back. There is no drawing against the tomorrow. You must live in the present on today’s deposits.

Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness and success. The clock is running, so make the most of today.

To realize the value of one year, ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of one month, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby. To realize the value of one week, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of one hour, ask lovers who are waiting to meet. To realize the value of one minute, ask a person who missed the train.

To realize the value of one second, ask a person who just avoided an accident. To realize the value of one millisecond, as the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.

Treasure every moment that you have! Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift — that’s why we call it the present.

JAN. 26, 2020

A Parent’s Prayer

I have a vision. It is of all of us standing before the Lord on judgment day. And the Lord will say: “I was hungry and you fed me, thirsty and you gave me drink, naked and you clothed me, homeless and you sheltered me, imprisoned and you visited me.”

Puzzled, we will respond: “When, Lord, when did I see you hungry?”

And the Lord will say: “How could you ask? You of the three-and-a-half million peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, how could you even ask?”

But thirsty, Lord?

“It was in the Kool-Aid that came in with the summer heat and the flies and left mud on your floor and fingerprints on your walls and you gave me a drink.”

“Naked, Lord; homeless?”

“I was born to you naked and homeless and you sheltered me, first in wombs and then in arms, and clothed me with your love. And you spent the next 20 years keeping me in jeans.”

“But imprisoned, Lord? I know I didn’t visit you in prison.”

“I was never in prison. Oh, yes, for I was imprisoned in my littleness, behind the bars of a crib and I cried out in the night and you came. I was imprisoned inside an 11-year-old body that was bursting with so many new emotions I didn’t know who I was and you loved me into being myself. And I was imprisoned behind my teenage rebellion, my anger and my stereo, and you waited outside my locked door for me to let you in.

“Now my beloved, enter into the joy which has been prepared for you from all eternity.”

Amen

JAN. 19, 2020

Compassion, or having a little sympathy for the other person, is another virtue and Jesus quality that is getting rare to find.

Like the story of the big snowstorm in a small town, the teacher warned her students saying, “Now be careful. I had a darling brother who went into a snowstorm with his new sled and caught pneumonia and shortly after, died.”

The school room was silent, then a boy raised his hand and asked the teacher, “Where’s his sled?”

To try to be a bit more compassionate is not an optional item or accessory for the Christian person, like remote control mirrors on a new car.

Compassion is a Jesus quality.

JAN. 12, 2020

Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction.
Maturity is patience, the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of long term gain.
Maturity is perseverance, the ability to sweat out a project or a situation in spite of opposition or discouraging setbacks.
Maturity is unselfishness responding to the needs of others, often at the expense of one’s own desires and wishes.
Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat without complaint or collapse.
Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say I was wrong. And when right, the mature person need not say I told you so.
Maturity is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. The immature spend their lives exploring endless possibilities, then do nothing.
Maturity means dependability, keeping one’s word, coming through in the crisis. The immature are masters of the alibi, confused and disorganized. Their lives are a maze of broken promises, former friends, unfinished business and good intentions which never materialize. Maturity—is the art of living in peace with that which we cannot change.

JAN. 5, 2020

“I Asked God”

I asked God to take away my pride and God said NO. He said it was not for him to take away, but for me to give up.

I asked God to grant me patience and God said NO. He said that patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn’t granted, it’s earned.

I asked God to give me happiness and God said NO. He said he gives blessings; happiness is up to me.

I asked God to spare me pain and God said NO. He said suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to Me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow and God said NO. He said I must grow on my own; but he will prune me to make me fruitful.

I asked God if He loves me and God said YES. He gave His only Son who died for me and I will be in heaven someday because I believe.

I asked God to help me love others as much as He loves me and God said, “Ah finally you have understood.”

DEC. 15, 2019

Some people were interviewed and asked to remember back to last Christmas. This is what they said:

A woman said: “I remember feeling rushed and hurried especially the last few days, I was really tired out for days”

A young man, college age, told reporters: “I wasn’t going to give in so much to the overpowering commercialization of it all, but in the end I did just that. I didn’t even make it to church, any church, for Christmas.”

A wonderful loving grandmother responded: “I was plain disappointed. I thought the kids would stay a little longer, enjoy it more.”

Parents of three young children remembered it and said: “All we know is on Dec. 26, we thought to ourselves, ‘Thank God!’”

How will your Christmas be this year?

Listen to this best capsule, short statement of what’s happening that I’ve found this season. Let it provoke your reflection and challenge your preparation for Christmas.

For many, Christmas no longer is the day to celebrate the mystery of the birth of God among us, the God hidden in the joys and wounds of humanity. It no longer is the day of the child, awaited with prayer and repentance, remembered with worshipful solemnity, joyful song and peaceful family meals.

Instead, Christmas has become a time when companies send gifts to clients, when post offices work overtime to process an overload of catalogues and cards, when immense amounts of money are spent on food and drink and many complain about gaining weight.

There are trees decorated, streets, sweet tunes in the supermarkets and children saying, “I want this and I want that,” and grownups saying, “I need to shop for only four more people.”

That shallow happiness of busy people, good people, often fills the places meant to experience the deep lasting joy of Emmanuel — God with us.

DEC. 8, 2019

Although Advent at first seems to be several weeks to patiently wait for the joy of Christmas, really on a deeper level and by ancient tradition and teaching of the church, Advent is more than that.

Advent really challenges us to know that time is always shorter than we think and today is the day to draw closer to the light of faith and our friendship with Jesus.

There’s an old story that helps make this point.

One demon jumped up and said: “I’ll go back to earth and convince the people that there is no heaven.”

“That won’t do,” said Satan. “We’ve tried it before and it doesn’t work.”

“I’ll convince them that there is no Hell,” offered a second demon.

“No, that doesn’t work either,” said Satan.

A wise, old veteran in the back of the room said, “If you let me go back to Earth, I can fill this place. I’ll just convince them that there is no hurry.”

DEC. 1, 2019

For God’s people, November is when we think about death, we pray for our cherished dead and we face the fact that one day God will call us home.

These sober thoughts should also prompt us to live and appreciate each day as a gift from the Creator and give thanks for all that we have.

We so often are caught up on our goals or chores or destination, we forget to appreciate the journey itself. You better slow down, don’t dance so fast, time is short, the music won’t last.

Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask, “How are you?” do you even hear their reply? When the day is done, do you lie in bed with the next list of chores running through your head?

You’d better slow down, don’t dance so fast, time is short, the music won’t last.

Ever told your child, “We’ll do it tomorrow,” and in your haste not see his sorrow? Have you ever lost touch and let a good friendship die because you didn’t have time to call and say “hi?”

In November with creation dying around us remember when you run so fast to get somewhere, you miss half the fun of getting there. When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift, thrown away.

As November ends and Advent begins, we start the season of hearty expectation. It offers a marvelous reflection on Christian life and faith. Be touched by these days. Be strengthened. Be inspired!

NOV. 24, 2019

Eduardo Sierra, a Spanish businessman and devout Catholic, stopped to pray in a church during a trip to Stockholm, Sweden.

He came upon the casket of a man whose body was being waked in the church for a few hours. Eduardo prayed for the soul of the stranger, and signed a condolence book nearby — he was the only person that day who prayed for the man and signed the book.

Weeks later, he got a note from Stockholm informing him that the 73-year-old real estate tycoon (with no relatives) had stipulated that anyone who prayed for his soul would get something of his fortune. The devout Catholic, Eduardo, got the whole fortune and all belongings.

Nice story, but even better is the tradition among us to pray for the dead in early November (All Souls) and during the whole month and at just about every Mass we celebrate as Catholics.

Think of those who have passed on, perhaps in transit to God’s Kingdom through the experience of Purgatory, like hitchhikers on the highway. We “pick them up,” we assist them with our good prayers along the way. When they enter into the fullness of God’s grace and presence, Heaven, then they will pray for us.

The Catechism says, “All who die in God’s grace and friendship, but still imperfectly purified, are indeed assured of their eternal salvation; but after death they undergo purification, so as to achieve the holiness necessary to enter the joy of heaven. The church gives the name Purgatory to this final punishment of the damned.”

That is why we pray for the dead. This is why the celebration of a funeral Mass is so important for each of our beloved. We also have the ancient tradition of having Mass celebrated for our beloved on the anniversary of their death.

NOV. 17, 2019

Anointing of the Sick

This sacrament is administered to a baptized Catholic “who has reached the age of reason” and is in a weakened condition as the result of a serious illness, accident, old age, or administered in anticipation of surgery.

A common misconception regarding this sacrament is the belief that it can only be administered to those “near death, which is incorrect. The sacrament can be administered whenever there is a serious concern regarding the health of a baptized Catholic, and can be administered more than once in a person’s lifetime, if circumstances dictate a need.

The sacrament is to bring healing, both spiritual and physical, and to bring God into the process of healing by forgiving a person’s venial sins.”

Friends and family members in attendance are asked to pray for the sick as the priest anoints the forehead and hands of the sick person with the oil of the sick, which is olive oil that has been specially blessed by a bishop during Holy Thursday services.

The anointing of the sick bestows a special grace on the recipient that brings comfort, strengthens the soul and eases anxiety, fear and doubt. The anointing of the sick also brings to the recipient a sense of peace.

NOV. 10, 2019

Autumn Lore

By Kathleen Jenks

As autumn returns to earth’s northern hemisphere, And day and night are briefly, but perfectly Balanced at the equinox, May we remember anew How fragile life is — human life, surely, but also the lives of all other creatures — trees and plants, waters and winds.

May we make wise choices in how and what we harvest. May earth’s weather turn kinder. May there be enough food for all creatures. May the diminishing light in our daytime skies be met by an increasing compassion and tolerance to our hearts.

NOV. 3, 2019

November is, in our Catholic tradition and devotion, a month to pray for and remember our beloved dead.

All Souls Day on Nov. 2 sets the tone for this autumn month when creation dies around us,trees become bare of their colorful clusters of leaves.

We know that our lives too, will come to an end. November renews our hope for eternal life and the spring time of God’s kingdom.

Our tradition within our families, among our friends and in the community of the church is to offer Masses and pray for our beloved deceased, to help them in their pilgrimage toward salvation and heaven. It is important to share this tradition with our young people to teach them how to arrange a Mass and Remembrance for someone who has passed on.

Especially during the month of All Souls, November, but all through the year, one of the important works of charity for Catholic people is to sponsor and pray for our beloved dead and hope that some day, someone will do the same for us.

OCT. 27, 2019

A Sunday school teacher asked her class why they should be quiet while in church.

One bright girl said, “Because there’s people sleeping in there!”

Of course, a few more things happen in church — worship, prayer, praise in word and song, the blessing and sharing of sacraments and the giving of gifts.

God gives us gifts beyond our imagining — life, the created world around us, the opportunity for love within family and friends.

Good stewardship, in the household of the church, recognizes the benefits and gifts we enjoy from God and the faith we share. It also recognizes our need to be givers for the sake of the church’s life and the help of others.

We know that the word “tithe” means to give one-tenth back to God’s purposes. A very moving story goes like this: A missionary in Africa had taught people about tithing. He explained the difference between giving from what is left over, and giving right off the top.

“No” said the man, “This is the only one so far; now I go back and try to catch the other nine.”

Impressive!

OCT. 20, 2019

There are three kinds of Christian discipleship, each is appropriate to a different period in our life.

The first is “essential discipleship.” That’s wrestling with the devil. It’s the struggle to tame and discipline, to creatively come to grips with the potent forces of sexuality, ambition and desires for success. These are powerful energies that come from God.

Our earliest struggle in life is to successfully leave home. After successfully leaving home and establishing ourselves in the world, we reach the next level, “generative discipleship.”

We give life now rather than receive it, becoming parents, teachers and ministers. The bulk of life is spent here, generously nurturing others. Kids make you unselfish overnight. Children take your life whether you want them to or not.

In this stage, we have come to that home we have built for ourselves, that comfortable place out of which we can give our lives for others in generative discipleship.

That generative stage is a good place to be, but it’s not a good place to end. There is another stage beyond that.

The last stage is that of “radical discipleship.” We face three choices: to become a pathetic old fool, a bitter old fool or a holy old fool.

We will be fools and old no matter what. The choice is what kind of old fool we want to be.

The Greek word “pathos” literally means “painful to look at,” and indeed it is hard to watch the old person who desperately strives to remain young, to keep looking and acting half their age. The bitter old fool is mad at the world. Nothing is right and nobody appreciates them.

The third and best option is the holy old fool. This person has gotten beyond anger, is able to forgive, to let go. In this stage of life, we actually are preparing to leave home once again.

OCT. 13, 2019

Why do you go to Mass?

Perhaps it’s because you grew up going to Mass and you can’t imagine not going. Perhaps you go to set a good example for your children. Perhaps you’re looking for God’s help, peace or healing. Or maybe you aren’t sure why — you just keep going and wondering.

Can you imagine that a problem could be changed into something positive?

God promises to do just that when we offer him our pain. When we come to Mass, we have the chance to offer God our suffering and our problems.

As the bread and wine are lifted up to God by the priest, you can also offer your pain to God. Pray, “Jesus, I offer you my …” It could be a difficult job situation, a troubled relationship or difficulty with forgiving someone.

Nothing is too small or trivial to be offered during Mass, and God can transform it into something good.

OCT. 6, 2019

A profound gap exists in our lives and in our world.

No matter what our religion, race or location on the planet, and whether we are rich, poor or something in between, we all know this tension from experience: There’s a gap between what the world is and what we wish, hope or believe it could be. And if we’re honest, we likely feel the same tension deep within ourselves.

On the one hand, I believe I am good and I have some things to offer this world. And yet I wish, or hope, or believe I could somehow become better, happier, healthier, more peaceful, more loving, more effective. More or less: Less selfish, angry, anxious, busy, fearful, doubtful.

The gap between what we desire and what we experience is real. In our efforts to confront the gap, we squelch our desire for a better world or a better life. We lower our expectations, numb our pain, distract ourselves or simply look the other way.

One thing is certain: we all contribute, in some way, not only to what is good in this world, but also to what is broken, what is sinful. For “all have sinned and are deprived of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23).

We may eat too much, drink too much, watch too much TV, binge on social media, escape into erotic or emotional fantasies, gossip about the wrongdoings of others, or strive desperately to prove our worth by attaining success or riches.

It is the most unimaginable, shocking claim: the Creator of all, the perfect, loving and good God, became a man, lived in our broken world, and experienced the weight of our sin, while never sinning. He felt the gap of this world in his hunger, loneliness, weariness, disappointment and pain.

Grace is not a mere “thing” or “substance.” It is not magic. Nor is it quantifiable. Grace is not so much an “it” or “what” as a “who.” Grace is God’s gift of his very self to his creation.

Grace is the gift of God’s love poured out for us in big and small ways: from the ultimate gift of salvation to God the Father’s quiet ready response to our daily needs. Grace is God himself walking with us through it all.

SEPT. 29, 2019

Small habits that will transform your faith and your life

The scenery doesn’t change. The view never shifts. You feel the wheels spinning and hear the engine revving, but you just aren’t going anywhere.

Congratulations: You’re stuck in a rut. It can happen in life, in love, in work, and, believe it or not, in faith.

The life of grace and holiness we were striving to achieve becomes more like drudgery. Go to work. Make dinner. Walk the dog. Go to church. Repeat.

What can a Christian do?

The real question, I think, is: What can a Christian be?

Turning faith into merely something you do misses the beautiful reality that faith — what we believe and how we live it — is the sum and substance of who we are.

So, first of all, be thankful. Second, be generous. Be prayerful.

Make gratitude the foundation of your prayer life. Develop a habit of writing down what you are thankful for. As you read your list, give God thanks and praise for your blessings.

Find something you can do to be generous with God. Visit someone who is lonely or sick, or volunteer at your parish as an usher, bulletin stuffer or small group leader. Or think about what you can do without, and share more of what you have been given. Gain a renewed sense of purpose and mission by praying before meals, at the start of any project, or the end of a long day.

SEPT. 22, 2019

A pastor was calling on parishioners who were kind of lax in practicing their faith, especially weekend Mass.

One fellow gave this nasty answer to the invitation to come back to church:

“Father, when I was a baby you poured water all over me, when I grew up you tied me to a woman I’ve had to support all these years. I’m miserable.”

The Pastor said, “Oh, yes, and the next time you have anything to do with the church, I’ll probably be throwing a bit of dirt on you.”

The man’s involvement with church was limited to baptism, marriage and burial.

Sounds like much more than only baptism, marriage and burial, doesn’t it?

SEPT. 15, 2019

What is retirement for you?

Maybe it’s a long way off, or a challenging time that is here now and can last many years.

Whatever it is, retirement means change.

People can live longer now, well beyond the magic “65” or “70.” Using that time to grow socially, spiritually, to contribute to life and community, to uncover new possibilities can bring such satisfaction and fulfillment.

The hope of good health, physically and mentally, is every family’s hope and prayer for loved ones.

Father Fahey, noted expert on gerontology and senior citizen issues, says that feelings of isolation and a lack of worth make newly retired persons concentrate on their losses. Instead. highlight the new chances and extra time afforded by retirement.

A sample help-wanted ad teaches many good points:

Man or woman with years of experience living and willing to share with others. Position requirements: time, interest, enthusiasm, generosity, flexibility and wisdom. Needed to: tutor a young person, get involved with political issues and campaigns, work on a neighborhood watch, teach your skill to another volunteer at local library or hospital or church. Friendly visits to homebound persons.

SEPT. 8, 2019

A web site produced by the Jesuit Community Centre in Ireland (www.jesuit.ie/prayer) encourages people to find a personal way of praying.

One of the biggest dead-ends in developing my spiritual life is to want to have someone else’s spiritual life, says one of the meditations found on the site.

I may find myself thinking, “I wish I could pray like them.” But if I am a school teacher, or an accountant, or looking after my children all day, then that rhythm of prayer might not be suited to me.

“Alarm Clock Alleluia:” When your alarm goes off, pray the psalm, “This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad.” Commit to a day of gratitude.

“Telephone Thanksgiving:” Say a brief prayer of thanks each time you answer the phone today.

“The Gas Pump Minute:” As you pump gas, visualize God’s spirit flowing into you and filling you with holy energy.

“Red Light Contrition:” when you’re stopped at a traffic light, ask yourself if you’ve been rude or otherwise failed to live up to your best. Pray a sincere “I’m sorry”.

SEPT. 1, 2019

English word origins come from a great variety of sources. Many languages add to its richness.

But some words actually derive from the names of individuals. Among these eponyms, one of the best known is sandwich. It is named for the fourth Earl of Sandwich who supposedly invented this handheld meal so he would not have to leave the gambling table.

If you think something is a doozy it is because of Frederick Duesenberg. The auto maker’s 1932 roadster had a powerful 320 horsepower engine and could go and impressive 130 mph.

Next time you read a book blurb think of Belinda Blurb. She modeled for the cover of a 1906 book of humor by Gelett Burgess. Somehow her name stuck to the words on the jacket.

Try to make your name synonymous with integrity and kindness. Then the good you do will last even longer than any name or fame.

Chicken Soup for the Grandparent’s Soul

The most rewarding thing about being a grandparent is watching your children become loving parents. It is our assurance that we did something right after all.

AUG. 25, 2018

Sometimes you will see a very old house built with window spaces bricked up in the wall. This is a relic of old days when there was a tax on windows — people could not afford to have much lighting.

And the otherwise …

One Sunday morning, a father gave his son a couple of quarters and a dollar.

“Put the dollar in the offering,” the father said, “then you have the 50 cents for ice cream.”

When the boy came home, he still had his dollar.

“Why didn’t you put the dollar in the offering?” his father asked.

“Well it was like this,” the boy explained. “The priest said that God loves a cheerful giver. I could give the 50 cents a whole lot more cheerfully than I could give the dollar.”

AUG. 18, 2019

Jim Smith went to church on Sunday morning. He heard the organist miss a note during the prelude, and he winced.

He saw a teenager talking when everybody was supposed to “bow in prayer.” He felt like the usher was watching to see what he put in the offering plate and it made him boil.

Ron Jones went to church on Sunday morning. He heard the organist play an arrangement of “A Mighty Fortress” and he thrilled to the majesty of it.

He thought, as he walked out the doors of the church. “How can a person come here and not feel the presence of God?”

Both men went to the same church on the same Sunday morning. Each found what he was looking for.

What will you be looking for this Sunday?

AUG. 11, 2019

By the Rev. Ronald Rolheiser

We’re called to live in the light, but we tend to have an overly romantic idea of what that should mean.

But that’s unreal.

What does it mean to live in the light?

To live in the light means to live in honesty, pure and simple, to be transparent, to not have part of us hidden as a dark secret.

Spiritual health lies in honesty and transparency, and so we live in the light when we are willing to lay every part of our lives open.

To live in the light is to be able always to tell our loved ones where we are and what we are doing. To live in the light is not to have to worry if someone traces what websites we have visited. To live in the light is to not be anxious if someone in the family finds our files unlocked.

To live in the light is to be able to let those we live with listen to what’s inside our cellphones, see what’s inside our emails and know who’s on our speed dial.

To live in the light is to have a confessor and to be able to tell that person what we struggle with, without having to hide anything.

To live in the light, is to live in such a way that, for those who know us, our lives are an open book.